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Hello everyone, this is my first post on the forum and I am looking for some good advice!
I started getting close to this amazing girl about a year ago, we literally spoke every day, met up every week , had a great time. I found myself quickly falling in love with her. Then suddenly the communication between us slowly died.... on her part. She hardly texted me, spoke to me, and it gradually got less and less as the months went on. I was really upset but didn't want to confront her because I thought it may put her off more. However I found out she is seeing someone new and it literally is breaking my heart, I feel jealous, angry, and bitter. I know I shouldn't but I stalk her instagram and seeing pictures of them together gives me a sinking feeling.
I wish I could move and not give a damn about her, but it seems almost impossible. To have someone all over you and fall in love with them, to suddenly them not giving a fuck is a horrible feeling. I mean ... Why wasn't I good enough?
So basically I'm wondering how many people have experienced this? and how do you move on when the person you love doesn't love you.
I started getting close to this amazing girl about a year ago, we literally spoke every day, met up every week , had a great time. I found myself quickly falling in love with her. Then suddenly the communication between us slowly died.... on her part. She hardly texted me, spoke to me, and it gradually got less and less as the months went on. I was really upset but didn't want to confront her because I thought it may put her off more. However I found out she is seeing someone new and it literally is breaking my heart, I feel jealous, angry, and bitter. I know I shouldn't but I stalk her instagram and seeing pictures of them together gives me a sinking feeling.
I wish I could move and not give a damn about her, but it seems almost impossible. To have someone all over you and fall in love with them, to suddenly them not giving a fuck is a horrible feeling. I mean ... Why wasn't I good enough?
So basically I'm wondering how many people have experienced this? and how do you move on when the person you love doesn't love you.
You will not be fully available for someone else if this girl is still in the back of your mind. It will hurt at first, like ripping a band aid off. But it will only hurt worse if you stick around.
If its meant to happen, it will find a way, but obviously not right now.
My advice to you is to stop hurting yourself by continuing to look at instagram.
Keep busy by doing things with your friends and family and in time the pain will pass.
If you want her back, she needs to know. You have no idea how her new relationship will go. People reconnect later in lives. If these feelings you are having are rare and important, i would tell her and let universe put everything in its place.
Ya gotta keep having fun, laughing, letting your anger and pain out in a healthy way. A few laughs fill the pain with positive good times. Friendships are good positive cushions to fall back on emotionally when romantic love is shit. When I'm laughing with a buddy, I could care less about snaring a lady.
The second book by Real is the only one I know of focused exclusively on male depression - covert of overt.