Come clean to your wife and your doctor about your porn habit. Then quit the porn cold turkey. If you have trouble not watching, ask yourself, what is more important - porn or my marriage? And behave accordingly.

one of my male friends told me of this exact problem, and actually it was his son that showed him an article about porn addiction- and how it affects 'real life relationships' my suggestion would be to tell your dr the truth, there is nothing shameful about this, I am a woman and if I were unavailable due to work hours- I would much prefer my husband to visit porn sites then to have extramarital affairs. Also, I do think guilt plays a role, maybe being upfront with your wife will heal the situation, of course I don't expect her to jump for joy, but again, sexuality is part of human nature and when u have no other form of expression- porn may have helped u alleviate that frustration and in turn who knows, may have saved your marriage.

I say talk to your wife as well. Id much rather know why it is you struggle to perform vs not having any idea and coming to false conclusions. I know many women are against porn but really I personally don't see it being an issue until it is an issue with your relationship.(which in your case it is but it is very much at a point that you can still deal with it and move on) Do you know what your wifes personal views are on porn?

Welcome and a big hug Tartan...... There is no shame in this so don't beat yourself up..... No one here will judge you

I would ask your family doctor for a referral to a relationship therapist as well I would be honest with your wife.... If you don't think you can do it without the help of a therapist then I would do it together....

Here's some info that might be of help to you..... There's also a Healthy Sex Board on here

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/meaningful-you/201309/the-hidden-wisdom-porn-addiction

Healthy Sex board

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/healthy-sex

Did you express this to your wife ?
I think you did so great. Many people buckle under pressure and actually cheat on their partners.
If she truly loves you, she will understand !
However, I think if your mind has already been rewired, you may need a good therapist who can help you get back to your wife instead of porn. Also, have you tried the pills ? It may help kick start your intimacy for now.
Hope things get better for both of you.

I am one of those women who do not like porn. However, that being said, I would much rather him do what you did the the alternative... unless it was sexting with other women.
We had a bit of a problem with what you are going through. Of course I got the.. you are sexy, you are the one I want.. yada yada yada but when you are going down on your guy and he looses his hard-on is a big problem! Or 5 min into intercourse there will be no happy ending?!? He was so pissed off that I wasn't getting mine either!?!
Besides being a BS, I am the BS who's husband begged her to stay but couldn't perform?? Of course I thought it was me.. this was about me right? I didn't give him the attention, time.. sex.. now that I rearranged my work schedule, we have tons of time and still nothing. Pills work for the most part!
I found the porn on his old computer, tumbler app on his phone etc. didn't know this was a thing until I read an article. So I told him he could watch all the porn he wanted... Starring Me! We have an old cell phone and I told him he could use that if he really wanted ( I refuse to ever see any of it) I don't have lighting and makeup artists!! Very unflattering! He likes it! He takes it on business trips and it is in a vault with 3 separate passwords and thumb print! However I have the code to this old cell phone and it has no SIM card.. no other apps. If this is what it takes to make him happy then so be it... The sex is fantastic!

** not a fix for everyone.. but comming clean is a start

First of all, no judgment. Second, this is identical to the situation I am currently in except I am not a nurse and I am on the receiving end. In fact it's so similar I thought for a second my husband and I wound up on the same website and support group.

So as a woman who is currently experiencing the same feelings your wife is experiencing, I can tell you that all she wants is for you to acknowledge her feelings without shaming her or making her feel bad about herself. Maybe you do this already, I don't know.

My husband and I went through this and we still are kind of recovering from it. It wasn't about just sex for me, it was about intimacy. Maybe try doing something for her that will make her feel wanted. For me, what I've wanted more than anything lately is for him to come home from work and just spend some time with me instead of picking up his phone and looking at the news or watching whatever tv show he missed while he was at work. There's a big difference between being in the same room as someone and paying complete attention to someone. I just want to know that he thought about me during the day.

As far as performance, try the little blue bill for the physiological and a counselor or psychologist/psychiatrist for the psychological because it's more than just the physical sensation you're getting from porn. There's a psychological element to it that because it was your method of pleasure for so long you've become desensitized which is something that happens to both men and women when they use porn as a sexual outlet.

I respect you for admitting you are part of the problem. I wish my husband would be more responsible for the lack of sex in our relationship instead of acting like nothing is wrong. We are working on it.