FYI... i'm not being Bossy. I came here for advice and support. You don't know me, you don't know my husband. and i'm sick of people in this room assuming things about my relationship you don't know... i simply wanted some feedback on ways to remind him of things without me having to constantly do it.

Btw, thank all of you who have actually gave me advice on the question I asked about. :)

maybe your husband has a medical problem or is under a lot of stress and that is why he isn't doing the simple stuff that you are asking him to do. if the notes and leaving messages don't work he might need to see a doctor

what you think is simple might be overwhelming to him for some reason. My boyfriend was like that too and we found out he suffered from high anxiety and depression. I tried leaving little notes on our chalkboard in the kitchen where we leave each other messages but he still wouldn't do what I asked him to do. He would read the messages and say he would do it later but never did because he had so much on his mind he would totally forget the message.

Things area little better now since i found the reasons why he kept forgetting and wasn't doing his share of the work. your husband might have some issues that you don't know about.

Is he taking any medications?

He just gets distracted easily. That's why i think he just needs reminders. LOL. He gets really absorbed in things that he's working on. I think i'm just going to set some reminders on his computer and on his ipod... and on his phone.. LOL.. and then not worrying about it.

He mainly just does the "animal poo" stuff.. i get really REALLY grossed out by that stuff.. He had to wipe our cats tush the other day. I also have to remind him to take his medication & Vitamins.

I think it will be ok.. he just needs reminders so he'll remember. I'm calmer today than I was yesterday :P We're going to play Monopoly together tonight, if I can get the table cleaned off. LOL

Thanks again everyone :)

Either he has amnesia or he just doesn't want to do it. Just like you don't want to empty the litter box, the only difference is that you voice your reason for not wanting to empty the litter box, and he hides why he doesn't want to do the chores. Also, you writing on here won't make him remember or make him turn around and think, oh wow, I should go do my chores, nope. It's going to make him think, why is my girl telling people i'm forgetful. He's not handicapped. He just doesn't want to help you. It's tough, but either you really talk to him, and let him know it's really bothering you. It might be a small thing now, but later, it will become one of your most argued items on your list.

JFYI, I've seen people refer to Hamlin in some posts as a girl, assuming since he's talking about his husband that he's a female. Hamlin is male, not female. I know his gender has nothing to do with the problems in his relationsip, I'm just pointing it out.