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Relationship little bump in the road

lizard12
lizard12

hey y’all! 


So me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months and I just found out that he is  addicted to watching porn which is not really a big deal to me I know everyone watch it. It just make me not feel like he is sexually  attracted to me anymore cause we have had sex in 2 months but he watches porn and (you know what) almost everyday. I just don’t know what to do anymore cause I have real bad depression problem and add so I do t want to do something I will regret later. Help me please 

lizard12
lizard12
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Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
It has the potential of becoming a big problem for some guys for sure.... My friend's husband became unable to have sex unless pornography was used

It was instrumental in breaking up their marriage.... She got that she was no longer interested at all in having sex because of it

I would have an open discussion about it
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
This is some info on Psych Central.... I think this online site is good

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-pornography-can-hurt-your-sex-life/
AnaOliver
AnaOliver
I think you should really talk openly to him about it. It goes both ways right? Tell him how you feel. Best wishes
arfie
arfie
I, too, have seen porn addiction reach destructive levels. I'm a child sex trafficking survivor (kiddie porn, too), so I've seen it reach grotesquely destructive levels. The part of his losing interest in real sex is a red flag for me. In actual fact, porn and real sex have as little in common as TV families and real families. It could be just a bump in the road, but I would, for sure, keep it an open, two-way dialogue.

Gentle support, whichever way you take it.
gingergirl1961
gingergirl1961
my husband was addicted to porn for thirty years.
we married and he has ceased watching porn... for all I know.... he might sometimes and I just do not know it....
but this addiction that started when he was probably 13 or so has damaged him to the point that we have been together for 13 years and have not had sex in more than 7 years.
We sleep in 2 separate rooms. It has made him completely unable to relate to me sexually.... he is a wonderful man. We communicate well... but in the area of intimacy concerning SEX... he is utterly broken and it will never be fixed. I gave up on talking to him about it YEARS ago.
You should be concerned.
11Christmases
11Christmases
I agree with the others...it's usually more than a "little bump in the road".

Try not to blame his behaviors on yourself and your depression, because I am reading a little of that in your post. If you do confront him about it, it is very likely he will attempt to throw the blame at you. You don't have to take it. Be strong.
Ann93
Ann93
It sounds like it could be a major issue in your relationship and that you really don't need a boyfriend with addiction problems. Everyone has baggage but I think addiction to pornography is a red flag. Don't ignore it.
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