I just broke off the relationship with a man I've dated for 4 years. He is very sweet and kind but is not able to get his finances straight. Four years ago, he told me he was going to do bankruptcy. I reassured him that there is life after bankruptcy if that's what he needed to do. We fell in love. He works hard, pays his bills, is a wonderful man to me and my son. A year later, he finally had saved the money for the bankruptcy but mentions that he hadn't filed his taxes for the last "few" years. When asked how many years, he said, he wasn't sure. He was going to meet with a CPA and work on that. Another year later, no progress. I tried to encourage, ask if I could help in any way, without sounding too pushy but this is the man I thought I was going to marry. He has his house. I have mine. We continued to date for 4 years and now, still no progress in the unfiled taxes. He has one excuse after another, a trauma, doesn't have the money, or something and so taxes are not straightened out yet. The bankruptcy is paid and ready to be filed but not filed due to waiting on the taxes. Thank goodness I've kept my finances separate. I'm tired of waiting for this man to get things in order so we can marry. I'm getting older and want to marry. I can't marry him now and take on his bad financial situation. He seems to be overwhelmed and needs someone to tell him what to do. I even tried that, in a nice way 6 months ago, and still no progress. So, I ended it. I'm sad. I love him. I don't understand why he let his taxes go. Asking why doesn't help me. He's the sweetest man I've ever known but the worst with finances. He's hurt. He loves me and my son. He said he's not giving up on us. I don't know if I should wait longer or just move on. Help!