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PelvicWhat
PelvicWhat

Hello. I'm 35 married and parent of 2 babies I'm finding myself with so easy health issues recently which has gotten me to start wearing adult diapers.  The wife hates it and I do to although I have made good with them. I'm in pelvic floor therepy and going good once a week. I wear light diapers (real fit for men) during long work or long days out. 


Anyways the wife hates it and it is turning her off. What can I do? 

LivingWater
LivingWater
You have my sympathy, friend. Adult diapers certainly can be embarrassing. Your wife should try to be more understanding. If you are going to pelvic floor therapy, perhaps this is only a temporary problem. Best wishes.
rose3
rose3
I'm sorry you are going through what you are. It must be hard enough for you to deal with the situation you're in, without her reacting this way. It's great that you're adjusting though. And I agree with Living that your wife should be more supporting, as any partner should be. Having said that, we all adjust to things in our own ways. Maybe she just needs a little more time to get used to things. If not, maybe you can talk to your doctor or a physiotherapist or professional that is helping rehabilitate you about the situation and regarding any information that might be available that you can pass onto your wife so she can understand better and/or be more patient with things.

All the best with it.
LynStrife
LynStrife
I can't imagine how hard that must be. I sincerely hope she realizes how she would feel if it were her with the issue instead of you.

Maybe a bit of rekindling would help. A surprise date somewhere without the kids. Last summer I secretly planned a trip to an amusement park and a night in a hotel. We were in the thick of dealing with our issues and it was great for reconnecting.