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erinpalm
erinpalm

I have a boyfriend, and we have been dating for almost a year. I feel that he does not make time for me like he does other important people in his life such as his family. I saw him once last month, and only twice so far this month. He is living about an hour and fifteen minutes away. I don't mind driving to see him, but he seems to always be too busy or tired to drive to me. I feel like I am putting in way more effort than he is. I want a relationship with him. I just don't know. The drive isn't awful and I'm not saying he doesn't ever see me or never makes effort. He does sometimes. But I feel that I do much more into the relationship than he does. I honestly feel like he doesn't want to be with me sometimes. 

Bit47
Bit47
Then you may be right. When someone wants to be with another person, they make the time to be with that person. No excuses. Why don't you try stepping back and not going to him, calling him, or texting him for a while and see what happens? If someone didn't want to be around me, I'd stay away from them. I don't care how much I liked them. Hope you get some answers. ♥
gebaird
gebaird
Have you tried talking to him about how you feel? What was his response? Was it always this way or was there a shift at some point when it seemed like he didn't want to be with you as much? Letting go is hard, but chasing after people who don't reciprocate your love is harder.
Aronia
Aronia
I think someone can be ligitimately busy. I personally can not travel 1.5 hours away more than 1-2 times per month. It is way too hard.
Any plans on getting closer?
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I agree to step back and let him do the pursuing if that's what he wants to do... If he doesn't you'll have your answer but I would just be a little less available... I hope that it works out for you!... big hug...x
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