Healthy Relationships Support Group
No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.
So the thing is, I love my fiancee, I really do, but lately life has been shit.
We had a daughter two months ago, and since then life just seems to be running downhill, fast. We have been together almost four years, and it hasn't been all rainbows and lollipops, but in general it was good.
When I got pregnant we wanted the baby, and he is a good father now. The thing is I'm stressed and so is he, and it's getting hard.
Tonight we had the mother of all fights. It started over something stupid and escalated. I ended up taking off my engagement ring and packing a bag. I was going to take Marlow and leave. I was that fed up.
He managed to get me to sit still long enough to calm me down, but now I'm faced with a massive dilemma.
Do I put the ring back on??
It's sitting on the kitchen table...and I'm lost. I don't want to leave him, not really, I want to make it work. But at the same time I don't want to put that ring back on my finger. If I don't I think he will leave me. I don't want that either. But something inside tells me to wait before I wear it again.
I don't know.
Am I just being silly??? It is just a ring.
We had a daughter two months ago, and since then life just seems to be running downhill, fast. We have been together almost four years, and it hasn't been all rainbows and lollipops, but in general it was good.
When I got pregnant we wanted the baby, and he is a good father now. The thing is I'm stressed and so is he, and it's getting hard.
Tonight we had the mother of all fights. It started over something stupid and escalated. I ended up taking off my engagement ring and packing a bag. I was going to take Marlow and leave. I was that fed up.
He managed to get me to sit still long enough to calm me down, but now I'm faced with a massive dilemma.
Do I put the ring back on??
It's sitting on the kitchen table...and I'm lost. I don't want to leave him, not really, I want to make it work. But at the same time I don't want to put that ring back on my finger. If I don't I think he will leave me. I don't want that either. But something inside tells me to wait before I wear it again.
I don't know.
Am I just being silly??? It is just a ring.
Anyway why not for the time being just work on those issues and don't worry about getting married or even wearing the ring focus more on the problems you both are facing and see what you both can figure out on how to get through them so you both can not only feel happy with each other but yourselves as well. Best wishes to you both.