Be picky, its your life. I am very picky myself. I wasnt so picky in my last choice and kind of let it just happen. I ended up falling for this person and wasnt compatible and just kept saying to myself, at least we fit, at least we have fun, at least we get to do this together etc... After 6 months she broke up with me because she knew it wasnt going anywhere. She knew she was settling and so was I.
What ever you do, don't settle for someone and be as picky as you want to be since you will be with this person for the rest of your life. If you just want to go on dates and have fun for any reason the don't be so picky but if you plan on dating someone for a partner then be picky as shit!!! :P

Just my opinion!

I know I have been a bit too picky at times... I have gone on a date, had a nice time and then somewhere in the middle he gives me a certain look and I think to myself "it's cute now, but wait a bit and it will be one of the things that annoys you the most" and then there is no second date. LOL.

At the same time though, there are things on my wish list of characteristics in a man that I would choose to be with, that I absolutely will not settle on.

I decided long ago that "no man will ever want me more then what my kids will need me now" So, the best I can, I try and concentrate on being a mom and raising my kids. If someone happens to come along, then great...but I'm not going to put my kids out to build a relationship with someone else..

does that answer the question? LOL

Be picky about a few important things! Everyone - male and female should make a list of must haves and nice to haves. Be picky about those must haves! But then leave some room to grow with the nice to haves!

I am the same way Kidsintowe03 I go out with them and I find some fault and decide that its not worth it and being that picky has just got me to be by myself. And I think a list is a great idea AmandaJune

and now that I am really thinking about it, LOL...I think that it's the gut instinct on that first date that I follow. Any bit of uneasiness...and I am OUT! And it doesn't even have to be anything on the wish list either..could be anything from not knowing how to use a napkin (I hate that!!) to talking about his children as if they were knik-knacks ona shelf.

If your like me its becasue your trying to find something wrong with them so you don't get hurt. When it should be just about having fun and getting to know somebody.

that may be true to an extent...still the same, I'm not settling.

For example..I went on a date with a guy last week. We met for lunch and had good conversation. It seemed we had ALOT in common. Then, he says to me "i know there are some women who don't like to be controlled, but if they think a man loves them they will do pretty much anything he asks her to do"

Lunch was over.

i think that being picky should be considered, at all times, while choosing a mate.
however, i too have been "too picky" and may have ended a potentially great relationship or two.

i suggest that you have some critera that you stick with. for me, it was - he must be taller than me, attractive and very sweet. luckly we found each other and are as happy as the day we met (going on 5 years w/ 4yr daughter)

yes, be picky but dont go overboard....

Remember your own human frailties when you're feeling picky. You are also a package deal with imperfections. Try to be as realistic as you can. Finding someone who has a lot of common interests, is really ready for a relationship, shares similar morals and values, is trustworthy, has good work ethics and is a lot like you in many ways,.....is hard enough to find. *wink

Make sure your picky side is practicing a little patience.