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Not sure how to put how I feel into words...

froggie0206
froggie0206

Not sure where to start on this, it may be length, so I guess I'll just say this, my husband got a phone call at 6:45 a.m. and it woke me up.


Now to go into detail:


Normally:


-His alarm for work goes off at 7 a.m. He usually hits snooze at least once making it 7:10 a.m. by the time he gets up. All I do at this point is get up and iron a shirt for him and either get up for the day and make myself a coffee, or go back to bed for an hour or so. He then gets ready and leaves to be at work by 7:30a.m. 


-He doesn't really have close friends, (guys or gals, although he has an easier time becoming 'friends' with the gals) they are mostly a small step beyond aquaintences. That being said I have known this fact for over 10 years and I never have gotten jealous. 


-He works at an office where the employees are mostly returning retired employees. There are few employees in their low 30's like him. Only one of which he has become friends with, a female (of course), let's call her Emma and, they vent to each other and get along well, as do her and I.


The thing about Emma is she is an attractive young woman, who recently went through a divorce, from an employee at another office from the same company.  As well as going through a midlife crisis, (including some questionable activities)

Aronia
Aronia
Was it Emma that called ???
froggie0206
froggie0206
Yes
samtan1964
samtan1964
You could jump to the obvious question but before you leap you might just want to consider if your husband is supporting Emma through a difficult patch. Or if you do think there is some doubt ask the question but make sure you look your husband when you do.
Cora_Belle
Cora_Belle
Or maybe she had a rough night and called to tell your husband she would be in late to work this morning, or maybe not in at all.

Did you ask him why she called? If not, why not?
Lenoire
Lenoire
You've already connected the dots; if it hasn't already let to an affair, it's just a matter of time. This is a giant red flag. I don't care how difficult her patch is, it's her patch not your husbands, let her lean on her brother or a female friend. Women like her are dangerous to naive men, so you're going to have to decide how much you're willing to gamble. Know that the longer it goes on, the better the chances of his feelings developing for her, and that's when the fog sets in. Post this on the Infidelity Board, just for curiosity and see what kind of advice you get.

Wishing you well.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I am sort of leaning towards what Lenoire has written.... If her marriage has just broken up she's going to be really vulnerable .... I don't think leaning on your husband is the best thing for your marriage..... xo
11Christmases
11Christmases
This would bother me too. I think this is how emotional affairs begin. And emotional affairs lead to more.

I would get her number from the cell phone bill usage detail, and see how often they call/text each other. If this was a one-time thing, I'd say nothing and just keep an eye on that bill. It could have been work-related, like another poster mentioned. If it's happening all the time, you could call her and ask her to leave him alone.
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