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Non supportive Friends.......

RockNMetalChic
RockNMetalChic
ok so i know i'm not the only one going through this- i have many wonderful friends that support me no matter what- but then there are those who when u don't do what they want and u make ur own choices in life- they tell u - they can't be ur friend anymore and they don't support u- i thought being a friend was being there no matter what- and even when u don't like what they are doing or agree with it- u still support them cause u are their friend- so why is it when i'm faced with the same issues- everyone turns their backs on me? and i stupidly stand beside them and say i'm here for you ! why do they want to be so non supportive of me and why can't i be non supportive back? my real question is- does anyone know- what is the deffinition of a healthy relationship between friends?..... cause i'm about to tell all my non supportive ones to just go away ....
deleted_user
deleted_user
Good idea in a nice non combatative way.
RockNMetalChic
RockNMetalChic
thank you ! :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
someone who sticks with you, but also someone who might see something you don't and can have a healthy conversation with you about what the issue may be.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thank god im not the only one. I dont know what the definition is, but I know exactly what you are talking about. One of my friends, someone i would have considered my very best friend on the planet, someone i woudl walk through fire for, has totally turned his back on me when i need him the most.
Kellie30
Kellie30
I am the same way, call , email
remeber birthdays and when I aks and ned them most aftermom died,no one is there.
I feel like you, I say I need
support but after awhile I let them go away. I am very alone
too
deleted_user
deleted_user
You know what, I think that it really might be the best thing to just let the friendship go if they turn their back on you. I recently had a friend tell me that maybe I needed to find new friends in order to deal with me, because she couldn't...what is that supposed to mean except that she isn't willing to be there for me the way I've been there for her?

A healthy relationship between friends should be equal support and caring.
Mozart
Mozart
I have more non than genuine supportive friends.

They were all there at the wedding, all at happy times, but during hard times, they all seem to be so busy.

I guess I'll know my true friends at my funeral...
see how many shows up?
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Have you ever mentioned how you feel, to them?
I think healthy friendships are mutually supportive. And it's hard to do in such a fast paced, world, w/family, job, and personal responsibilities......
patti22
patti22
Nope, everyone shows up for the funeral.

It's the ones that show up when you're in the hospital that show you they're you're real friends.
red40rose
red40rose
i think that friends are supposed to sit back and be there for you, pick up the peices etc, but recently i was in a situation where my friend was in a situation where she was about to do something out of character, and i said something as i cared for her, and personally i would like to be told hey what are you doing, i think i saved my friend some heart-ache. But basically you friends are just caring and are concerned etc, is there roll to talk about it, but in a productive way and non-judgemental and prefably not behind your back.
can always make new friends id you need to :)