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Oh no.
Im so cross with myself.
He came to my house with some more of my stuff. I let him in, he took me for lunch, we talked. Oh NO! What was I thinking.
We went to a quiet pub and he said he wanted to stay friends until I finish studying in 2 years and when he got sorted be 'more than friends'. But go ahead with the divorce as we can always get married again....
NO NO NO!
Why did I let that happen?! I just sat there looking all coy and girlie....and holding hands.
Not only that we kissed before he went home. JEEZ. I KNOW!
NO NO NO!
What was I doing?! Why did I just sit there and let him think I wanted that when I dont. I don't want to be with him. Now I am looking at my phone and stressing he hasnt contacted me.... its horrible and I let it happen AGAIN!
Hes a pig and I deserve better.
He says hes 'in a dark place' and 'the man yo married is gone'. He says he needs to clear his name and will do anything to do that.
He says he loves me, he says he feels calm and safe when he is with me.
NO NO NO!
Now my heads a mess and Im just behaving like a complete idiot. I know it. I felt so happy for a while, he wants me - I was overjoyed. But then I remembered who he is....and who I am.
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Hey all, i know its been quite awhile since i posted on here. Its been a summer all right. Its been something else........... You know how they say not to open the can of worms? Well a few months ago i decided to find out what my due date would have been for my first baby, the one conceived by r***. My baby would have been due on March 4th of 2006. They would be 20 years old. I was R**** on June...
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
Focus less on him and how screwed he is. It's already established he's nuts. Instead really try to understand yourself right now. I think you are far too emotionally vulnerable to have any contact with him. That's just how it is right now. So try to stay present and aware of yourself
I think.it's easy to fall back into old habits with him. I get it. I'm sure there were things you loved about him at.one time. And I'm sure seeing him a little melancholy.softens you. All the more reason to never let your guard down with him.
You have got to set boundaries with him. Really.
Lesson learnt, yet another one!
I m not sure why I am so weak about it all. Maybe I just need to practice asking for what I need and keeping those boundaries in place. I usually am okay when I meet someone new, I start as I mean to go on and I think this is how it is with him, I started weak! ( had no boundaries to be honest!)
I think you have to make a decision and stick to it.... I know it's harder when children are involved however the wavering would affect them as well
There's no reason to go out to lunch.... If you have something to discuss about the children or divorce you can do that on the phone and I wouldn't go off topic.... Perhaps you need to fake it til you make it ya know.... It's not comfortable for you to do that right now but eventually it will be.... Big hug....xo