Interesting article
I found that my dominance vs being passive fluctuates greatly and my perfect match is the same way. I call it the teeter totter - we balance each other out.

Mysteryman, You've done any guy that needs tips a favor, if they read that article. It clarifies the differences well. I've never understood the old saying, "Nice guys finish last." My friends who are married or dating their nice guys, cherish them.
I've gone to places with some of my beautiful, & approachable, single female friends. They would hope to meet a "nice guy". At times, no males, would even say "Hello"? It would seem impossible that there wasn't one single male, in the place that wouldn't have liked meeting someone new also. ?? IDK.

I skimmed through the article. I live with a passive aggressive man, who is mostly passive. I. Hate. it. !!!!!

Being passive is lame as hell!

It's a great article

I have always been the guy that complained that women didn't want nice guys and didn't know the difference between a nice guy and a passive guy.

Holy cow that was awesome

Excellent! I am finally divorced from a passive-aggressive guy. It's difficult to even get away from them. My therapist (who also knows my ex) once said that everyone likes him - the nice guy - but not love or hate. With your passion and caring you are more loved or hated. People form a definite opinion. He never does anything to create an opinion. It's a hard web to crawl out of. (28 years!) 20 of that wondering what the hell was wrong. the last 5 was like dragging a dead weight around.

whats an alpha woman?

dont worry i googled it and figured it out. aussie dudes so many are passive!!!

Whew, what a relief. I was afraid I was going to be tagged as a passive male. Yes I am quiet, kind to everyone, but I am also alpha-ish. You have to be.

I haven't dated in years, but toying with the idea again after the D. Although I am flattered when women approach me, I seem to connect better to the ones who wouldn't normally do so.

no no no no

SLOW guys finish last.

but on a more serious note, I tend to not buy into 'standards' or 'stereotypes' ... and I see labeling someone nice or passive as such.

And it's also worth mentioning that you should evaluate your target audience when determining actions. Depending on the kind of woman you want, There are times where patience (Read-passivity) pays off, and there are times when a more aggressive approach is needed.

But perhaps the message here might be something more like passivenice

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I personally don't like the word "nice", as a recovering "nice guy" I don't like the phrase. I prefer decent person, for someone that is assertive, defends his boundaries, but shows compassion. I seek balanced relationships that are fair and equitable... but I see the passive versus aggressive balance as different than the article seems to imply. I see it as highly situation dependent and less clear cut.

Nice guys finish last is one of those sayings that should be thrown out the window along with the belief that women are attracted to the bad boy type. Whoever started that load of hooha must really be laughing at how easy it was to get people to believe that.
There are all kinds of people in the world and all kinds of relationships. There are those who are very passive that find a mate and their relationship works for them. There are men who are strong and aggressive and rather bossy and they find a mate and their relationship works for them- why? Because we don't really know what goes on behind closed doors do we?
I've always been considered a "nice girl" I am nice to everyone and kind in general- that doesn't mean I don't do bad things! lol

i am a recovering bad boy (being attracted to them) addict. and I was addicted to them in a passive way, I would say I am / was passive aggressive, and he is a passive aggressive bad boy as he *seems* like a nice guy in the beginning....little do we know what goes on behind closed doors.

Thats pretty healthy isnt it? LOL

Actually I read on one of those "how to catch a girl" websites that women, in general, are attracted to the dominant guy. And that bad boys and jerks tend to be dominant. So in the absence of a good dominant guy, or our of confusion/mistake, a girl will end up with a bad boy.