something is not satisfying him in the relationship but it may not have anything to do with you.
What does he say when you ask him about your sex life ?

He tells me he is not in the mood for sex. I try to initiate it but I get no response. I tried to perform oral on him but he told me it's not doing anything for him.

I also told him I don't think I arouse him; he says I do.

If I'm attracted to her and I love her, then there would be NO way that I wouldn't want to be intimate with her on a daily basis. This man is not for you. You should be with someone that truly loves being with you and wanting to do things with and for you.

Thanks ScorpionNW. I thought we were on the right path together. It was great at the beginning and all of the sudden it came to almost a complete halt.

I think he may other issues you are not aware of. Could be that he's gay, impotent, or just that he's fallen into the habit of wanking to porn and can't be bothered to worry about incorporating another person into his sex life. It could be that he's banging a married woman and likes having his own girlfriend to hang out with and do stuff with, cause it makes him feel normal.

The bottom line is whatever is going on his problem. You've made it your for months now. Whatever his problem, he seems like excellent friend material, but not appropriate for a romantic entanglement. He'll never get help as long he's having it all his own way.

As far as him being gay he is not I know this for sure. I confronted him about sleeping with someone else and he told me if he was I wouldn't be living with him.

Does it matter what the problem is? If he does not see this a problem and is not willing to try to resolve it, I don't see how you can have a happily ever after with him. How old is he? May it age related diminished interest in sex.

Hop on over to the divorce and break up thread and ask the ladies there how many times their husbands and boyfriends lied about affairs, denied that it was a problem and minimized the lack of an appropriate sex life until they finally found them, sometimes years later. About being gay. I don't know how you think you can know this for sure. It's been proven that sometimes the most homophobic and outspoken men are closet homosexuals. Again, you can't really know those kinds of things for sure.

He must be interested in sex if watches porn. I can guarantee that he probably masturbates to it. I've only ever known a few types of men to refuse oral sex from their partner after being together for 7 months..
-Men who were impotent, and literally couldn't get it up.
-Men who gay and had no interest in women.
-Men who were getting regular rockin' sex somewhere else.
-Men who were to religiously preoccupied to loosen up long enough to get some action. If he's allowing you to live in his home without being married, I believe you can rule this one out.
-Men who are HIV positive or have sexually transmitted disease.

I've never known a man who expected even the most passive women to stay with them in a relationship with no sex. I literally can't imagine what he's thinking.

I understand. Thanks for your honesty.

You sound like a nice lady and he has been playing some mind games and probably has some challenges in how he views women- once he has someone then he does not want them, Madonna/whore complex, feelings of inadequacy. My understanding is that you're not married, the relationship is taking a significant toll on you, so why not just call a day saying in as nice a way as possible, I can no longer deal with your sh..t.

He's 39 !

I bet the porn definitely is part of it. Maybe addicted, maybe not. Could he also be depressed? Did I see on another thread he's on workman's comp? I think if I were you I'd back off and start being less available, be home less, go out with your friends more (to places where you might run into other guys), and see if he gets more interested in you. Maybe too much togetherness is a factor.

Based on your other recent posts, I think your guy probably realizes that this relationship is not for him. Unfortunately, not every dating experience is meant to last. It becomes more difficult to terminate a relationship when you are already living together.

This relationship was based on instant mutual attraction, you moved in with him very quickly (2 months later) and now he regrets the decision and knows that he jumped the gun. The new has worn off of the crystal chandeliers.

Next time, don't be so eager to be a "couple" before you even get to know the other person. Take your time to know the person and don't move in until that decision is based on a long term, permanent comittment to a future together.

We talked last night and he didn't say anything about him wanting me to move out just if I'm unhappy pack my sh*t and go. He is not going to stop watching porn. He's 39 and he can do what he wants in his book. I just wish he could see from my point of view why porn bothers me. He also stated if there wasn't something there (love for each other) then he would of kicked me out 2 weeks ago. I'm so lost. I don't know how to feel anymore or what to do!

Men in love and who want their partner to stay don't say "pack your shit and go". Read the writing on the wall - this "relationship" is over. He either doesn't have the balls to tell you and hopes you get the picture, or he is so apathetic about this that he DGAF.