Do you still experience pain from your previous relationship? Perhaps you need more time. Do you feel that you have good chemistry with her or is she just someone you enjoy spending time with? Perhaps you can tell her that you really care about her but that right now you don't feel the same way she does. She may be willing to take it slow and see what happens or she may not want to be with someone who can't give 100% of his heart. I think you should talk to her and see what she is looking for.

As I read your post I began to wonder if I am in the same situation but on the other side. I am not sure the guy I'm dating feels the same way about me. He's not one to really talk about his feelings so it's hard for me to bring it up.

Your divorce is still relatively fresh. It sounds like you're not ready to be in a committed relationship. You should tell her so. It may prevent her from being hurt more deeply further down the line. If she wants to continue seeing you given where you are emotionally, then she's proceeding at her own risk. The good news about this situation is that you seem to be getting in touch with what you want and need which is a good thing.

I don't know if you should stop dating her, as only you can make that determination, but I do believe 4 months isn't that long of a relationship, especially when you're coming out of a marriage.

It sounds like she is a rebound, or you're just not looking to be tied down to one girl, as you had to do the whole tied-down thing while married.

I feel that you should muster up the courage and tell her exactly how you feel. It's not fair to either of you. Like is too short. I need to also practice what I preach.

You say she is perfect for you, yet you don't feel the same way about her as she does about you.

How does she feel about you? Are you certain she doesn't also feel the same way for you and is just being polite?

Have you ascertained why, if she is perfect for you, you are feeling like you're faking it?

If you asked me what kind of woman I want, she would match everything I list.
It might be too soon for me to be in a long term relationship.
I feel like she is falling for me, I can sense it by the things she does and say without saying it. I know it's my fault because I recipecate(sp?). Especially during the tender moments. I care for her but I know I will not be falling for her.
Sometimes, I wish she would break up with me so I do not have to hurt her.
I know I have to tell her soon, I just need to build the courage to do so.

you should tell her everything you posted here. Granted , she will be really upset about the break up, but eventually she will accept it and be thankful that you were honest and upfront.

I sure hope you are telling her this BEFORE you sleep with her.
Then she will REALLY be upset.

We have been intimate since we started dating. That is why I stopped dating other women.

I will tell her. Just don't know how. Never had this talk before.
A friend suggested not to break up, but take a break. we have to discuss what that means,

lol
"WE WERE ON A BREAK", ROSS GELLER

I concur profoundly with replies #7 and #8.

Oh boy.
She is going to wonder why you had sex with her if you were not that in to her.

I wish you good luck.

You need to be honest with her out of respect and tell her what you feel, dont string her along

I am guessing that you jumped in it too fast. Like you said, you were not even out of your marriage yet. Perhaps your rebound woman, happens to be perfect for you, but you are on a "rebound".

If you know in your heart you will never fall for her, then tell her. Otherwise you are leading her on and playing with her feelings. If you have ever cared for this lady, man up, and tell her the truth before it goes any further, for both of your sakes.

Your problem is neither of you are alike. I would end it while it is still in it's infancy, otherwise you may break her heart.