My husband suffers from moderate to severe OCD, as well as Generalized Anxiety, PTSD, Depression, and an "unspecified" mood disorder. We have been together for over 10 years and married for 2 and a half years. We struggled through many things during our relationship. Money issues, housing issues, family issues, aggressive neighbors, harrassment, etc. We finally have achieved some peace and stability in our relationship the last two years. We have a reliable vehicle, a good place to live, no agressive or harrassing people around, steady income, insurance, etc. However, despite us finally achieving all this and finally reaching a place where we could actually start enjoying life, my husband is nearly bed bound due to his lack of management of his OCD. He has been to residential treatment twice over the last 10 years and has had numerous therapists and has tried almost every drug out their known to treat OCD. He has struggled to achive relief of his sometimes overwhleming symptoms. He has been taught tools, he has a very understanding and supportive therapist, and his family has even become more positive and encouraging. And yet...his issues have overwhelmed us. I am solely responsible for almost everything. I work a full time job which is physically demanding. I often get of late in the evenings. I come home and I often have to do some unneccessary OCD related task before I can do the regulary nightly chores, feed our cats, fix dinner, etc. My days off are usually consumed with regular household chores which are compounded by him wanting me to do things a certain way. Or I have appointments or other errands that I have to run and I rarely have time to myself to read or engage in other activities I enjoy. Not to mention I am often limited to what activities I can engage in because of his numerous fears. We always told ourselves that getting to a better place in life would open up opportunities for him to really focus on his OCD and get back on track and so I bent over backwards to do everything I could to make that happen. And now that it has...he is stagnat and life is very similar to how it was when we were so unstable. He rarely gets out of bed, he almost never goes outside and EVERYTHING is ten times harder because of his numerous fears, rituals and ristrictions. I fight with him constantly about what I will and will not do. Our marriage is in disaray and we have almost no sex life. I feel so lonely and overwhelmed. I have tired talking to him about it so many times I've lost count. We even started going to marriage counceling in the hopes that he could understand better if it came from a therapist...I don't think its working. He won't do the homework that is given, half the time he doesn't even remember what the homework is. I have considered divorce, which I never thought I would do, we've been through so much together. I have also considered long term care for him but options are very limited because we are still young, he is only 38. There aren't many facilities that take people that young. ANd the ones I have found so far are VERY expensive and don't accept insurance. I want my old George back. The George that used to love life and wanted nothing more than to have a life with me and fought hard for it. He was determined, sweet, charming, and so smart. The George I have now acts like he hasn't got a brain in his head half the time. He zones out during conversations, he forgets five seconds after he hears it. He honestly acts like he just doesn't have the will to live anymore. I can't spend the rest of my life with someone who is waiting to die. But I don't want to give up on him...I feel like he can be helped I just don't know what to do for him. He's had so much help, I don't know what is left. I have also considered trying to find an online partner who could help fill some of the emotional void but I have a lot of guilt about that idea. I believe that would be cheating and I don't want to cheat. I just don't want to feel this way anymore. What can I do?