The qualities I seek aren't necessarily physical. I don't favor a particular hair/eye color, complexion, ethnicity or body type. I do want my partner to be reasonably fit and healthy and able and willing to do physical activities.

I value intelligence, kindness, integrity, empathy, humor...all adjectives, sorry JacJac.

Note to self; adjectives.

i want a woman who has fully blossomed. she knows herself, she understands herself, and she is master of herself.

she knows her place in the world. she has grace, poise, and wisdom. she is radiant in her goodness. she is a spectacle to behold.

yet, she is so humble that no one realizes just how special she is.

except me.

A few nights ago I was having this conversation with a very close friend (married friend). she was telling me how she wished she could be a wife to her husband instead of his mother. I explained to her some of the things I said here including how I wanted a man who knew and has proof of love in his life already.

She tells me that I am being "too picky" and that I was being unrealistic. She went on to say how I could find someone and be the one who teaches him love ..blah, blah, blah. Well, I wasn't backing down. I'm 34-ish years old and if someone my age doesn't know what love is or how to give it there is no way I'm willing to be his teacher. I believe we teach others how to treat us and our needs but it's not fair to anyone to say "this is how I want you to love me..do it like this". If that were the case I could just continue giving that type of love to myself.

Just wanted to share.