Well if things are not working out for your happiness and you are not getting what you want out of the relationship its not healthy for you. To worry about him is normal and it shall pass as time goes by but you need to be happy to so you need to look for your happiness in life right now.

You can continue to support him emotionally if not also financially...as a friend! But at least you both won't be living under the same roof.

What medical issues does he have?
What is the situation like at home?
What is it that's bothering you so much about him?
Maybe you have answered this in past posts. I don't know but I would like more information before giving out advice.

Drew
He's diabetic, has high blood pressure and smokes like a chimney. Also he has penis issues (hole is not closing after he had a growth removed and I haven't seen him get an erection in 5 years. Maybe he can't get one, he hasn't told me either way.
Living situation sucks. We live eith my parents in a tiny bedroom. I have a home there always.
He has his truck with sleeper. So many things bother me about him. A lot of them are just petty though but some things like not brushing his teeth daily or calling me names when he's drunk....

If he's abusive get out. You had me worried about him and his health conditions. I saw it through to the end with my wife but she loved me and would never hurt me that way.
I was about to get upset with you. I'm glad I asked for more information. He doesn't deserve your pity. Get out of this now. Remember to put in that he's an abusive drunkard next time.
You are a good person for putting up with him this long. I applaud you

Please do not stay in the relationship you do deserve to be happy you are a beautiful person and you can start over to find a wonderful man and a much more healthy relationship again. Hugs

Whether or not it is healthy may be up for discussion.....but girl, what you are feeling is certainly NORMAL. Any time we are up against big changes, there is fear involved. Regardless of how unhealthy your relationship may be, it is still familiar. As humans, we gravitate towards the familiar and shy away from change.

You loved him at one point, and you feel a sense of responsibility. You are a good human being, and you don't have any desire to inflict pain or discomfort on another human being. So maybe ask yourself this: does he NEED what you provide; or would he be capable of providing it for himself if he worked as hard as you do? You never need to feel guilty for not enabling someone.

I can so relate to the feelings you shared. I was married to a man who abused me horribly, and I still felt like I needed to make things "easier" for him. The day I told him I was ready to file for divorce, he looked me dead in the eye and said, "Ok. I was going to take what you would give as long as you would give it." I walked away, and haven't looked back since.

Good luck to you friend. It's a rough place you are in, but I promise it gets better. You have so many wonderful days ahead of you!