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just dont know

leopardfreak
leopardfreak
hey so well just started dating this guy and well hes a ''bad boy'' ben to prision and all omy he has kids that he caint see . i really like him but im unsure he says he dont party to much any more but well since its xmas well party galor how can i tell if its just cuz holidays or if he actually does party that much ? i wanna give him a decent chance so far well it felt like he was taking advantage cuz i have a car but he made sure to to get me mula for gas and then some tonight so makes up for it so lest i know he not just using me right ? omy i think it could be risky but apart of me wants the life of just go with da flow and relax and shit happens right . pluse apart of me is worried so if it dont work out will he send people after me or what will happen cuz were in one class at school together and now gunna carpool with a couple of friends as well and could use the extra mula hmmm im a parent to one baby and her father isnt around so its kinda nice having this money extra money help
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would only say to follow your gut and by the sounds of it so far in your post to be quite frank you have more cons then pros by staying with this fella. If you are still unsure then take it slow and set up some boundaries you feel comfortable with as I feel that way at least you won't get into a situation where you feel guilty and obligated to be more serious with him then you want to be. Don't fall into a rut where you feel you owe him because he does extra things for you as that is not what a healthy relationship should be like in my opinion.

Hope this helps a bit and whatever you decide I hope the future is bright and happy:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh my the flag is RED. I mean if you decide to break up with him you are worried he might" Send people after me." This sounds very bad to me. Listen to you gut and be careful.
page
page
I agree strongly with the first two posts on here on this situation.
For you & your baby's sake, this is serious, on who you allow into your life. Difficult as it may be, a bad ass guy, can make it a hellofalot worse. Tread carefully leopardfreak!
deleted_user
deleted_user
What was he in prison for? Why can't he see his kids, is he not allowed visitation by a judge and if so, why?

You fear what might happen if you break it off with him or what will happen because you're in a class together. A relationship shouldn't have any fears of a partner.

Forget how nice it is having the extra money, you're number 1 priority should be the safety of your baby and yourself.

When in doubt.....don't!
onetoomany
onetoomany
Run.

This dude sounds like bad news.