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mysteryman73
mysteryman73
So sometimes I can me jealous and I am trying to stop this behaviour but the girl I am seeing is not helping she is talking to a guy she had a filing with and texting him till three in the moring and I being over jealous or do I have a reason to be mad.
koolman
koolman
Ask her what they're talking about (!).

Could always search her text message history when she's not around, just for some type of visual confirmation.

But, ultimately, jealousy is a wasted emotion, means you're always comparing yourself to him. She may be chatting with HIM, but she's in YOUR bed, not his (that you know of). Focus instead on being better than him, being conversationally active with her, so that she has no reason to go elsewhere for consolation or whatever it is that she's seeking by texting at 3am.

Women, or dare I say, PEOPLE, are good at "compartmentalizing" their feelings, putting you in one box, and him in another. All you can do to dispell this is by talking with her more, so that she has no TIME to text.
MTZ3
MTZ3
I am sure you already know this, but if they been friends since 13, there is very little chance, the texting/ friendship will end any time soon. It would bother me that they have slept togehter a couple times, as that would indicate there was some attraction there at some time. but since it didn't develop into a longer term relationship, maybe not such a big deal. If it didn't develop before, it likely won't in the near future. But it would give me some pause. If their relationship is an interuption to yours, it is detracting from the time she spends with you (ex. repeated pattern of breaking dates to go console him, she texts him more than you), then I would end my relationship with her.