My partner and i are still in a fight. He has always been used to getting stuff done for him. Forexample his mom calls him on average 5-7 times a day,to wake up for work ,make sure he leaves on time, to check on his lunch , to make sure he is safe home , did he eat , to remind him to get his things ready ahead of time for the next day and finally to say good night. Wen we got together i now am kinda ashamed of it but i realized i did something similar. I did it to have his mom like me ( which she doesnt much) and to show support and care for  him. I cried a lot telling him how i feel unappreciated for all the work that i do. His response was stop doing it i dont care about you. We arent okay yet he shows care in things like bringing me fpod to work and still helping keep a full fridge but if i cook he eats most of it since he did help buy the food but wont lift a finger around the house ( which i currently am not either because im tired and i deserve a break. Not that i do it for recognition just tired of getting treated like a maid) any ways every time he takes out his anger on me even when it isnt about me and its work or family related i remind him how supportive i am and he tells me he been told me to stop doing anything for him. Today he got home from work let his phone die and went to sleep meaning forgot to put an alarm for work and get things ready for tomorrow .i am un sure of wether to put an alarm for him because him being unemployed would affect me too since we live together or to let him suffer his consecuences and lose another job. He has a history to blame things on me and doesnt know how to take responsability for his actions . like apperantly it was my fault he lost his other 2 jobs in the past because the night before he lost them i caught him in a lie and he drank and was irresponsable didnt wake up for work and so its my fault because if i hadnt "picked a fight " with him knowing he has work the next day he wouldve not lost his job. When he loses his job he lacks on getting a job for up to 3 months . and he buries himself in debt and this just get worse around the house because money gets tight, he ignores and lies to his family so they dont find out he lost his job and i have to back up/ keep up with his lies.  So im debating wether to save his ass and help him keep his job or let him suffer the consequences and i will end up suffering with him( which feels mean but serves him right).