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I got a little down this weekend. I really had my feelings hurt by someone I considered to be my friend. I posted a couple of pictures of me helping her move into her new home with her and her daughter on Facebook. I of course tagged her in the pictures. She calls me an politely asks if I could delete the post and repost it without tagging her. I asked her why? She says
I'm still friends with your ex and she might see them.
You do understand right?
I told her yeah sure and we got off the phone.
This actually pissed me off a great deal.
I didn't meet her through my ex. I actually organized a reunion for them when I was dating my ex. They hadn't seen each other in over a decade.
I've been a loyal friend to her before, during, and after the relationship ended.
I helped her with everything from loaning her some money for Christmas to helping her move into her new home but she's worried that she might upset my ex?
Why would our relationship be dictated by a woman I dated 4 months ago when we have been friends for over a year and a half.
Her friendship with my ex doesn't bother me..
What bothers me is that she worries about how my ex feels, someone she hasn't even seen since I broke up with her.
Would anyone else be upset?
I wrote this out and I'm still unsure how I should feel?
She did say that I could still post the pictures of us but she didn't want me to tag her. I just don't know.
I'm still friends with your ex and she might see them.
You do understand right?
I told her yeah sure and we got off the phone.
This actually pissed me off a great deal.
I didn't meet her through my ex. I actually organized a reunion for them when I was dating my ex. They hadn't seen each other in over a decade.
I've been a loyal friend to her before, during, and after the relationship ended.
I helped her with everything from loaning her some money for Christmas to helping her move into her new home but she's worried that she might upset my ex?
Why would our relationship be dictated by a woman I dated 4 months ago when we have been friends for over a year and a half.
Her friendship with my ex doesn't bother me..
What bothers me is that she worries about how my ex feels, someone she hasn't even seen since I broke up with her.
Would anyone else be upset?
I wrote this out and I'm still unsure how I should feel?
She did say that I could still post the pictures of us but she didn't want me to tag her. I just don't know.
My ex made my life a living hell. I'm not saying that she was to blame for all of our problems because that's never the case and I'm not going to put my opinion on the topic because I loathe my ex and I would be biased towards her.
Screw that I could probably make a gernal about what she did.
I don't want my relationship with my ex to determine the quality of relationships that I have with other people she may know. My friend knows I'm a good person and it doesn't matter what my ex says about me but the fact she doesn't want to be tagged because my ex would probably have something negative to say about me pissies me off.
I don't talk to her, I have nothing to do with her. I wish my name would stay out of her mouth.
This all had something to do with my ex still talking shit about me, trying to make me look like the bad guy.
You're way overthinking this. You may not like me saying it, but this is about ' tagging' someone on Facebook. Granted, I've only been on Facebook now for a few months after being on it 10 years ago and leaving. Maybe I don't ' get ' the importance of pics and tagging.. I wouldn't know how to 'tag' a picture and I don't even have any pics and never will. That's how I want it.
I don't know the dynamics of your friendship other than what I see here and now you're ranting about your ex.
so, that's my 2 cents which aren't worth much I know.
If they say I don't know or yes I ask them if they think I'd do that?
Their answer determines wether I want them around or not.
I don't tell my friends my side of the story unless I choose to say something to them about it first, not them hearing something from her.
Samantha, my friend that I've been talking about already knew my side of the story and was a big help in helping me out when I was so upset over it. It just seems like Amanda D should just move on with her life but she's still running her mouth about me.
You do understand right?
I told her yeah sure and we got off the phone.
^ This is when you should have told her how you felt.
i got off of facebook because of these situations. i do not like my picture taken and there are certain area's of my life i do not want in view.
I didn't really mention anything about the issue I had because shortly after she posted pictures, tagged me, and a few other friends and thanked us all for helping out.
There were several things that bothered me at the time. My ex being the woman she is tries to get in my business is one of them.
I thought she was playing her games again and that's why Samantha didn't want me to post the picks. Samantha, her daughter, and I all went out last night and had a great time.