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I know there was post a few days ago similar to this so sorry for the repeat.
My thoughts are that can you judge a person on what they have done before?
Can you anticipate what they would do by using their past behaviour?!
I have posted before about my current Husband who has a past where he has cheated on everyone he has been with, except when he was cheating on his wife with her best friend he doesn't call it cheating as he wasn't sleeping with his wifebut he managed to be faithful to his wife's best friend for 8 years.even though it was cheating as he was married and sneaking around!
He is not sorry about any of his affairs or how he hurt people. clearly Im worried he will do the same to me, but here I am trying to take him as I find him.
but anyway I digress
can we use the things people tell us as indicators of who they are or should we not discuss the past, especially relationships.?
My thoughts are that can you judge a person on what they have done before?
Can you anticipate what they would do by using their past behaviour?!
I have posted before about my current Husband who has a past where he has cheated on everyone he has been with, except when he was cheating on his wife with her best friend he doesn't call it cheating as he wasn't sleeping with his wifebut he managed to be faithful to his wife's best friend for 8 years.even though it was cheating as he was married and sneaking around!
He is not sorry about any of his affairs or how he hurt people. clearly Im worried he will do the same to me, but here I am trying to take him as I find him.
but anyway I digress
can we use the things people tell us as indicators of who they are or should we not discuss the past, especially relationships.?
thats what my mum always said - he kept up the good actions for a while.yup he charmed me. I fell for it because I wanted to.
So here I am trying to unravel the pieces.
xxxxx