Humm...I see that you are christain and I am aware that many bible verses explain that sexual thoughts about others can be equal to "cheating in your heart."

While I am no longer Christian, my interpretation of those verses is that it is human to have fleeting thoughts....but not ok to dwell on them and continue to purposely mentally engage in them. I think that intentionally dwelling on these thoughts is not what god wants....but not grounds for divorce, and therefore not likely to be viewed as "cheating."

I suggest trying to intentionally dwell on things that can spice up your current relationship and try to redirect your mind intentionally.

We have more control over our thoughts than many people care to admit or take responsibility for.

I think that it depends of your husband approves. Maybe try talking to your husband about how you've been feeling. Good luck. Dawn

I don't think so as long as they stay as fuzzy day dreams. We are just doing the best we can to get through this life. Cheating in my opinion is when you act on the day dreams... even cyber chatting/flirting I consider cheating.

I believe everyone has these day dreams, even our 90 year old grannys!

Oh cut yourself some slack girlie. I think your smart to assess what it all means. Maybe its an uncounscious warning that you're missing some little thing in your relationship. Figure that out and then make it happen in your relationship. Think of it like when your body craves something like salt it means your body is missing an element. I think our subconscious works the same way. Its just a sign of something missing. Not anything wicked,immoral or the end of something loving and stable.

It's normal. It's human. Dream all you want. It's not cheating unless you actually act on it. Don't tell him because you will hurt him. I understand that my boyfriends have probably imagined themselves with others while with me, because I know I have. As long as he doesn't tell me, I'll be fine. As long as he doesn't actually cheat, I'll be fine.

Sometimes it's hard to control your thoughts. Don't feel guilty if you find yourself thinking too hard about someone else. Just don't do anything that you will regret, that would hurt him and your relationship. Ya know?

i do the same about this one guy, it isnt physcial cheating but according to me bf is emotionally. i know what ur going through just try not talking to this guy

do you think about someone that you know? a close friend or acquaintance? It's different if it's just a fantasy in your own head, that's not cheating. If you are continually focused on that one particular person and wanting it to be more than a day dream, then you have to look at what's missing in your life. But if it's just a harmless thought then enjoy it and don't worry about it, and don't tell your man that you are thinking of someone else. It might cause problems for no reason.

Deep down, we're all sluts LOL.

I don't think that it's cheating as long as you don't act on it. Dawn

just think abnout it is one thing...thats normal..its how you act on thoese thoughts is the question.

Because you're in a committed relationship with someone doesn't mean your thoughts belong to them. Your thoughts are yours and yours alone; no matter what they are. Out of all the things in this world we finance, rent and lease your thoughts is one of the only things we own out right. Window shopping is ok.