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I'm going through a rough patch in my life. I have a lot of responsibility's that take up a lot of my time. I have depression, it's especially bad this time of the year because I also suffer from seasonal depression. Lately almost everyone I'm around irritates the hell out of me. I even have a fwb that I've known for a long time and usually get along with but even she is getting on my nerves. She is bisexual and often brings a friend that I can play with. very attractive and the 2 women she has brought over are both stunning but she comes over unannounced all the time and it pisses me off. Plus she told me a week ago that she wanted to have a more serious relationship with me but I told her from the beginning that I would never get serious with a bisexual woman. especially if she's already told me that she likes to be with women more than guys. She is starting to create unnecassary drama in my life. The few guy friends that I have think I'm the luckiest guy around. I don't think I am. BTW I'm not bragging to them. Every time one of my guy friends comes over she's right there and freely talks about our escapades which also bothers me and I have talked to her about it a number of times. So much responsibility and an attractive woman wanting a relationship that I'd have to worry about running off with another woman if things did get more intimate. Pretty much everyone knows about my sex life. All I ever really wanted was to find a woman that's 100% straight that is interested in a monogamous relationship. She has virtually put up a cock block spanning the whole City/county running her mouth about me having 3 ways with her and her friends. The type of woman I want to attract isn't going to find that to be an attractive quality I am nothing special. I'm not rich nor am I a perfect male specimen. At first it felt nice getting the extra attention but I always thought it'd be casual and not constantly blabbed about. She wasn't interested in a serious relationship before why now? I want a monogamous relationship that's not with her. I've pretty much been a complete dick to most of my friends because I feel like I'm suffocating.
You've gotten a lot of great replies on here so I won't add much other than to say I've known you longer than probably most on here and I know how it's gone with some of your relationships and I don't want to upset you, but in the past, I think you've held on to relationships when you did feel like it wasn't the best thing for you and you 'tried' to end things but then would keep on with texting and what not which only frustrated you even more when you should've cut the cord and made a clean break. I think it's totally shitty that she's blabbed all over the place of your private sexual experiences with her. You say ' I don't know if she'll still want to be friends'. Well, she CAN'T still be friends with you without your permission and participation in that and for your sake, I do hope you will really end it and I'm afraid that she is going to keep contacting you. So, I guess what I'm saying ( and you are saying right now you don't want to be in a relationship ) is , like Kool said, give yourself some time. Stay strong when it comes to this girl.
I hate that you're so depressed and I know the cold , dark winter days make it harder. You know I always want the best for you and I'm always here for you.
Big hugs and love xoxo
LMT
Great advice!
Me and Drew go waaaay back. I tend to ' mother' him like I do everyone else.. doesn't matter if you're 20 or 40. lol
Hugs~
She doesn't make me feel the way I did
xo
LMT