I love my husband very much. We've been married for 7 years and have two young children. The problem comes with him not standing up to his mom even when it hurts me or the kids. We have been so stressed with his extended family's circumstances that my husband and I decided together to stay home for Thanksgiving and not spend it with extended family (like we always do). We need the time to focus on each other or we are going to completely lose this marriage due to all the stress in the family business. He promised to tell his mom we weren't coming the weekend of October 23rd. Then, it was Halloween. Then, it was this past Monday. Yeah, it still hasn't happened. Now, he promised me this coming Monday. I don't believe he means to lie to me; he's just incapable of standing up to his mom. However, I am very tired of being cast aside for whatever his mom is wanting or demanding. Granted we work in a family business that he and his mom own, so it's hard. However, we were supposed to visit my family this Thanksgiving (my sister lives 15 hours away and we only get to see each other once a year; my parents live 20 hours away and I don't even see them yearly). If I can tell my family no when I know I won't see them again until at least next summer, I feel he should tell his mom no too in order to put our immediate family first for once. We are still going over to his mom's for Christmas as always. Am I wrong?