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How to Know if a Current Relationship is Godly

MCiamnotw
MCiamnotw

Been in a three month relationship, past two months have been long distance. My boyfriend claims to be Christian, but he is overly explicit, quick to anger, impulsive, and sometimes a bit of an alcoholic. I do not know what to think of all this and everytime I try to help him be more godly, he gets upset with me and tells me he is fine with where he is "religiously". I prayed to God for advice, but have not received an answer. My boyfriend seems to love me, but his lack of God love has me concerned.

rmb
rmb
Well honestly, an atheist would have issues with his behavior.

Also it seems you have emotionally cheated on him based on your other post so I’d take God out of the equation and just chalk this up to a relationship that may not be right for either one of you.
BeautifulArt
BeautifulArt
I was a Christian for over 35 years...I am now an atheist. I would have to agree with with rmb. Take god out of the equation and just look at the relationship, and see where you all are as a couple..I had a marriage when a Christian and I was in a similar situation... ends up the guy was simple not who he would say he was. Why? Guilt. He knew who he was supposed to be per the religion... he knew what to say.. but he did what he wanted, he didn’t do the work and it got worse as the years passed...9 years after an I do, we divorced.
My issue with prayer is that we seeking an outside source for an answer, but usually we do that because we know the in answer and it isn’t what we want to hear... so we hold on to hope that god will provide a different answer... I wish for those 35 years I would have paid attention to what’s in front of me verses asking for a different answer that was never going to come.
People are who they are, we can’t change them...can you accept them as they are? Or are you always going to be disappointed? Good questions to ask ourselves when in any relationship.
patti22
patti22
"bit of an alcoholic"....is that similar to a bit of pregnant?

As he's Christian, I suggest AA for him, Alanon for you.


(((Just be aware that AA isn't a magic pill. Their sucess rate is about 5%. But those that they are able to get through to...tend to do well.

Alanon seems to do much better. It helps you leave his recovery up to him and his higher power, while you look at your own stuff.)))
rmb
rmb
Also I get people have a particular faith or code and they want to infuse that in their relationships. I have no issue with people who believe in god. But yeah, don’t let that blind you into what comes down to your instincts. If you believe in God then you know he made us into amazing beings, with intelligence and common sense. It would be a against God to ignore both, in my opinion.
MemphisWH
MemphisWH
You cant change him, he will only get more set in his ways.
if you arent happy back out.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I agree with what the others have written.... This relationship is only 3 months into it and it's not good and 2 of those months are long distance

I would put it to rest if it were me..... Big hug …. I wish you well.....xo
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