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So, i wrote a discussion a few weeks back talking about how my friend, who i have had feelings for for the last two years, is becoming very detached. I feel like we're not as close as we used to be. We used to be best friends, and we have both told each other how we feel but then our lives go back to how they used to be, except this time it was different. Now we barely speak until i have class with him 45 minutes every two weeks
I want to know how to get him to look at me the way we always used to look at each other. I don't want to be another one of the guys, i want him to look at me like i'm a girl.
So what do i do? do i wear prettier clothes? Make more of an effort to speak to him more? go out of my way to find him and walk down the halls?
I'm at my whits end, my hearts end. I'm tired of putting in all the effort to keep our relationship going, but i'm terrified of giving up on him.
I want to know how to get him to look at me the way we always used to look at each other. I don't want to be another one of the guys, i want him to look at me like i'm a girl.
So what do i do? do i wear prettier clothes? Make more of an effort to speak to him more? go out of my way to find him and walk down the halls?
I'm at my whits end, my hearts end. I'm tired of putting in all the effort to keep our relationship going, but i'm terrified of giving up on him.
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You can't . sorry
deleted_user
honey, just be yourself. don't change for him. just be yourself, and if he doesn't like it, so be it.
deleted_user
I guess in my opinion when you make changes and try to be someone you are not but walking in shoes that are not your own it usually makes for a lousy fit. Best I can say is just be yourself enjoy the people who appreciate you for just being you. If he wants to be friends or anything more then that he will let you know. Wishing you better days ahead very soon:)
AlliS
Thank you so much. Very true advice!
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