All I can say from personal experience, is dont leave her hanging.
make it clear, don't lead he r on or give a half hearted attempt.


Just tell her straight up,
I think you're a nice person, but not right for me. So I dont want to lead you on and waste your time, I think it's best we each move on as individuals, and I think it's best we don;t continue to talk the way we have been.
all the best, you have allot to offer but not quite what Im looking for.

I agree with BlueJay, tell her straight up and be honest.

I saw this article a little while ago. I think it has some great advice:

http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articlematch.aspx?cp-documentid=17854875

I would gently tell her that she is a great person, but you are looking for something different. Don't say that you want to be friends if you have no intention of following through on that. Be honest and say that you don't want to continue seeing her further because you are afraid that it will lead her on, and that's unfair to her. Reinforce that she is a great person and she did nothing wrong- you're just looking for something a little different.

And a word of advice...don't tell any half truths or lies thinking you are sparing her feelings. She will resent you even more when she finds out the truth. Someone told me he was getting back together with his ex, a few months later I talked to his ex and congratulated her on their reconciliation. Suffice to say, they hadn't got back together and it was ugly when SHE confronted.him.

From my experience, it's gonna be painful on both sides, but needs to be done. Get it done soon brother because the alternative is a bad emotional roller coaster ride.

I know its hard to do. The fact that you want to "let her down easy" shows that you at least care for her feelings which is a great thing. But I agree with everyone else...Be honest and don't lead her on because the longer you wait to tell her the harder it will be for her to accept...especially if she is continuing to develop feelings as time goes on.

~gowheretheloveis

Well i have a couple of questions first?
1.Knowing you were never really interested in her...were you physically intimate at anytime? (knowing that she wanted more?)
2.Have you been wishy washy with your emotions? (one day you feel like you could possibly like her...then next not so much?)

I think the above plays into alot of how you have handled this situation from the start. With your answers will let us know how she will react more to the conversation u need to have with her.

So dont dig any deeper or make this worse than it will be on her. Let her know the truth and be as kind as possible about it. But once it is done let it be. Give her time to heal and move on and if in the future u can be friends than great...but there might be too much hurt there.
Good luck :)

Thank you so much, guys. I appreciate your reaching out.

Thank you so much, guys. I appreciate your reaching out.

Thank you so much, guys. I appreciate your reaching out.