Healthy Relationships Support Group
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Hi everyone. I'm new to the group. I am trying to build a healthy relationship with someone new in my life, but am struggling with the past.
My ex cheated on me with other women. This was hard for me to process when I found out how long he had been cheating on me. I did not find out about them until a friend told me about him cheating with another friend. I am trying to avoid getting in the same type of relationship.
I also don't know what expectations are for physical intimacy and dating are anymore or if intimacy too soon can be a sign of someone who will cheat. I have been wondering if this is important to understand if I want to avoid being in the same situation. I have always relied on my comfort level with the person...resulting in fewer partners in most people my age.
I don't want to end up in a long marriage with a cheater again and wonder maybe if jumping in too fast into a relationship is a factor. Are there other signs to look for?
My ex cheated on me with other women. This was hard for me to process when I found out how long he had been cheating on me. I did not find out about them until a friend told me about him cheating with another friend. I am trying to avoid getting in the same type of relationship.
I also don't know what expectations are for physical intimacy and dating are anymore or if intimacy too soon can be a sign of someone who will cheat. I have been wondering if this is important to understand if I want to avoid being in the same situation. I have always relied on my comfort level with the person...resulting in fewer partners in most people my age.
I don't want to end up in a long marriage with a cheater again and wonder maybe if jumping in too fast into a relationship is a factor. Are there other signs to look for?
I just wanted to give her signs of someone who may be a cheater so she may avoid the heartache they bring with them. My heart is still open. When I dated I saw red flag signs from men and I immediately steered clear of more dates with them. I was not rude to them, I just did not spend any more of my time with them.
I've been in a relationship for 2 years with a very loving man. I am very happy.
Your thought process on this one is totally nutso.
The blame belongs on the cheater. The cheated on party can be clingy as hell and if the cheater doesn't have the guts to say.. "your clinginess is turning me off and I'm going to start dating others now"
Then they are a cheater and it's nobody's fault but their own.
ON the plus side, defense lawyers everywhere are hoping they can snag you for their next jury! ha ha...
It sucks. Why can't people just be honest and confront each other, event though we know it's going to hurt each other and make each other angry? Is comfort with dirty little secrets, living a lie, preferrable to misery and, God-FORBID, maybe being alone for awhile? So many of us are cowardly, chicken-shit.
If a man focus solely on your looks ( talk about how sexy and pretty you are). Then he is most likely a cheater. These men only see looks so the next hot girl will grab his attention.
If he wants sex too me early in the relationship, maybe he is the cheater type.
If he does not introduce you to his family over a period of time, maybe he is not that serious about you.
If you are in a relationship with a man for sometime and then you decide to withhold sex, then you can cause him to cheat.
Men (like women) want to know you care about them. They need to feel special. If they feel mistreated then they will look for someone else.
I like to let guys talk a lot about his friends and his past. I listen carefully about what he has to say. This gives you clues about the type of person he is. Just let him ramble on and on about his friends and you will learn a lot. If his friends are cheaters mostly likely he is one too.