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My boyfriend of 1 year's father and brother are coming into town to visit tonight and tomorrow. I asked off for tomorrow like 2 weeks ago because we were planning on going fishing at the beach. Well last night my b/f did his best to tell me gently that I was no longer invited because it's just a guy's day and that his brother isn't bringing his fiance.
His family lives 5 hours away and I've only met them 1 time.
Personally I feel insignificant to all three of them. I feel it's not important to my boyfriend that i get to know his family and I feel that it's not important to his dad or bro to get to know me.
I've been moping all day. Is this okay or not?
His family lives 5 hours away and I've only met them 1 time.
Personally I feel insignificant to all three of them. I feel it's not important to my boyfriend that i get to know his family and I feel that it's not important to his dad or bro to get to know me.
I've been moping all day. Is this okay or not?
Problem is that my boyfriend doesn't trust any of my guy friends and i really don't have any girl friends. So he doesn't like me hanging out with them. :/
That's probably my fault though because as an only child and only grandchild on both sides, I seek a lot of attention. My guy friends give me the attention that I need and talk about/ do things that are more interesting to me. It's not sexual attention either but my b/f just doesn't trust their intentions.
I feel like it should be enough that he says he trusts me, then again maybe he doesn't but i've given him no reason to doubt me.
If the 3 of them don't see each other very often, I can understand them wanting it to be a guy's day. As Katie said, it's most likely nothing to do with you personally, they just want it to be a guy thing.
At that point i was uninvited. So should he have said "I already invited my g/f" or just go along with their decision?
I don't think it's cause they dislike me or my personality, i just feel like im not important to any of them.
I have guy friends who are just friends, and I wouldn't let anyone I'm dating say I couldn't be friends with them anymore. In effect he's isolating you. This is often a first step in abuse.