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soulsearcher71
Ive been in a relationship for almost a yr. We became friends in Oct 2013 started sleeping together and hanging out on the regular untill we moved in together This Oct.17th. I should probably add that he's about 12 yrs my juinor. We have a lot in common, we both moved to Co. To grow cannabis. Him 5 yrs ago, me 4. Ive felt a disconnect back in the summer . There was some stress in my life @ that time( my BFF died, i didn't have a phone so i had no idea she was sick. Well I didn't call him for about a week and a half. He called me several times and when i finally answered he informed me that authortities came in and made him cut down the garden his garden that we had been working very hard on. With that , surcumstances led us to move in together to build bigger and better with 17 acres. Grow our own medicine. Enough for the family ;) as well as grow food, plants, and flowers.
He is on a grow forum that he is a BIG part of ( more on that later ) He is in a completely different world when he's on this site, same with FB. he's an extremly fast typist and multitasker ( chatter ). So he left to visit with his family for over 3 weeks on the 17th. Well we have communicated very little since he's been gone but the little time we have, i could tell that he was calling cuz he felt like he had to. He has 2 Facebook accounts. one for the cannibis cumminity and the other for "him" and everytime he leaves me a message, he's back on one of the other sites and doesn't even look @ my response usually for hours. My gut had already been telling me, but anyway. I have an account on that site. He encouraged me to check it out when we started this, so i went on his forum. Started reading and i was sick! He has made up SEVERAL different people fishing for women to chat with almost franticly. The dudes hardly sleepin... Me either collecting info. Some of the user names he's comin up with... My favorite by far has to be WOOK. Look it up. My God! Advice??
He is on a grow forum that he is a BIG part of ( more on that later ) He is in a completely different world when he's on this site, same with FB. he's an extremly fast typist and multitasker ( chatter ). So he left to visit with his family for over 3 weeks on the 17th. Well we have communicated very little since he's been gone but the little time we have, i could tell that he was calling cuz he felt like he had to. He has 2 Facebook accounts. one for the cannibis cumminity and the other for "him" and everytime he leaves me a message, he's back on one of the other sites and doesn't even look @ my response usually for hours. My gut had already been telling me, but anyway. I have an account on that site. He encouraged me to check it out when we started this, so i went on his forum. Started reading and i was sick! He has made up SEVERAL different people fishing for women to chat with almost franticly. The dudes hardly sleepin... Me either collecting info. Some of the user names he's comin up with... My favorite by far has to be WOOK. Look it up. My God! Advice??
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He's got some Damn issues ..you'll never trust him again.
Get out asap
I'm sooo sorry..this sucks for you. Unfortunately the club of women finding out their men have a secret sex life (both online and in real life)
Seems to be a verryy large club indeed. It's so damaging.
Is this a business you are running or just for personal use?
Depending on your specifics, and coming from experience with similar issues, I would remain quiet and distance myself emotionally while I collected evidence, considered all my options and made a plan for myself.
but really.
your suspicions are enough.
use the next few days to get a plan in place, tell him not to come back, there must be other people who can cultivate weed!!!
His dishonesty is estounding and I wouls be more pissed off because not only i am deceived emotionally, but i would have a SERIOUS problem continuing any sort of business/fonancial relationship with someone who can not be trusted.
Broken heart will be mended, but bancruptcy and criminal record stay with you forever.
I absolutely refuse to have business partners who have the potential to screw me.
I'm sure you can see that nobody has suggested she stay in this relationship.
This is about the poster, not your issues.