Uh absolutely not. If I weren't there w/ him, he better not. That is definitely stepping over a boundary for me.

I'm not sure what kind of place you are talking about- is this like a nude or clothing optional hot tub (I know clothing is optional in saunas)? If so, no, I would not be okay with my boyfriend going and sitting in a hot tub with girls in there who were potentially nude- or if he was nude. That's gross and really inappropriate for someone in a relationship.

That being said, if people have to be appropriately dressed, I have no problem with my boyfriend sitting in a hot tub if there happen to be women in there. I work at a pool and (before I got pregnant) went in the hot tub all the time. Sometimes there were other women in there (in swimming suits of course), sometimes there was one guy in there (also in a swim suit). It's not a big deal, it wasn't like I talked to the person in there or did anything but relax and warm up after swimming.

A health center (for an assessment on depression). And, no, not nudity. But there also had to be two people at a time (as I mentioned above). So, if someone wanted to go in, they had to find someone else to go with. So, I guess sometimes, it was women. And, it was also supervised.

I dont think i would be very comfortable with it at all. There are situations that no one who is in a relationship with should go into and i believe this is one of them

oh i would not let my boyfriend.. no way

I would definitely say that especially if it is supervised, sitting in a hot tub is fine. I have sat in the hot tub at work numerous times- sometimes with a guy coworker that gets out of the pool at the same time as me. Other times, there will already be people in there and I will go and sit. It's not like anything happens in there- just people sitting and relaxing and enjoying the heat. Most of the time, people in there don't even really talk unless they came to the pool together and know each other.

The only way I could see myself being a little bit upset about my boyfriend being in a hot tub and a girl happening to be in there would be if she was wearing some sort of very revealing swimsuit (like a thong bikini suit or something). If my boyfriend was at the health center and wanting to sit in the hot tub, obviously I would rather he ask a guy to join him rather than a girl because I guess I wouldn't want him purposely seeking out other girls. Bot other then that, I don't see what the problem is.

Thanks everyone,

With you having been there Kristi (in hot tubs) helps give me a better understanding.

He assured me that it wasn't "like that" - meaning I guess for any other reason than just having a hot tub. But I can't say it's something I'm comfortable with.

i would be really interested in how they felt. did they have a good time? was it fun? and not in a sexual manner....but was the experience good. and i would expect her to feel the same way if the tables were reversed even though i know she wouldn't.

I think it really depends on the man. I have had four men in my life and 50% of them I wouldn't mind. So I guess it depends on the man and their personality type. Do you trust him? Is he a flirt?

- exhusband and current boyfriend... I trust completely and wouldn't mind. Neither of them were/are flirts.

- exboyfriend and exfiance... NO WAY. They were/are both big flirts and I didn't trust them 100%.

Doofus,

You raise some interesting points, and I just want to understand better what you mean by whether the experience was good... Are you saying that would be a determining factor as to whether you would be comfortable with the sitation?

And, when you say you "would expect her to feel the same way if the tables were reversed even though i know she wouldn't." Do you mean that she should be comfortable if it were you in that situation too?

Thanks all for your feedback.

If this were my stbx I would have never been comfortable with that. But I've been there... my group of friends/family are huge hottubbers... and that does happen and most of the time it is innocent.

My current boyfriend I wouldn't have a problem with it as I know him very well and I know his thoughts and feelings for me and I trust his love. he could go hottubbing all he wants. Specially if it is supervised.

Well in my mind, if there is no nudity, a hot tub is really nothing more than a hot bubbly pool to sit in. I could care less if my husband got in the hot tub with other people there. They are just sitting in there. What's the big deal?

piper,

He would have to find someone else to go in it with him if he wanted to use it (one person only isn't allowed).

I guess the "big deal" for me is that some of those choices were women (whoever he could find, I guess), and the thought of him sitting in a hot tub with another woman - just the two of them is not a comfortable picture for me.

but didn't you say it was supervised?

It isn't like they can do anything when someone else is watching.

Depends on how slutty my partner was. If ya can't trust your partner, hot tub or no, they're gonna cheat on ya.