For some women, yes...yes, unfortunately it is a game.

Sucks but it is true.

For others, it's not. Sometimes you can toss it up to hormones. Sometimes it's insecurity. If you think someone likes you, you might try to be hot, but if you think that they don't like you, you'll get cold. Not on purpose, just a reaction. Sometimes it is what it is...

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Oh maybe, but she went from texting and calling all the time to not texting or calling the much. So I back off and then she says I am ignoring her.

She can be a little crazy

hmmm... I don't think this is a 'woman thing" as I have been accused of it before.

In my past, I ran hot and cold because I was not communicating well my own needs, which were not being met. This was partly my own issues and my own inability to express myself, and partly poor choosing on my part dating very selfish women that did not provide me the atmosphere I needed TO express myself.

I'm not saying you are selfish, just explaining my past situation.

I don't know your situation but that happened to me. When she went cold I thought she was stepping back for me to show her I care about her and she's not just a booty call to me. Then she broke up with me. I take the cold as she's maybe evaluating. Don't ignore her but if you want to keep the relationship going I'd take a step back, even a little one. She obviously wants the attention but have your own life. From my experience if you both don't step back when she runs cold, she'll feel smothered and bounce.

I think your right, what bugs me I give her space and then she goes back to texting and wanted to see me all the time and then right back to Cold it is bugging the crap out of me.

Are you flexible with your schedule for her? If so maybe be a little more rigid. Have plans and say I can't see you today I'm meeting up with a friend or whatever your dong, but are you available Saturday? I was too accommodating and ended up spending way too much time together. I'd be like well, I was going to get up and go to the gym in the morning, but I guess you can sleep over and I'll skip the gym. I'd be like ok so are you and your friend hanging out all Saturday because if your planning on coming over afterwards I'll make sure to be around...that type of stuff. It got me nowhere. It was awesome at first but it was no way to keep her interested. It was a bad situation though, you shouldn't have to do things to keep someone interested. All I'm saying is do your own thing and plan time for her but don't rearrange your life for her.

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It is not just a woman thing at all and I suspect that it might stem, in some cases, from people not being sure what they want themselves. They keep testing different things out to see how it feels and if it helps them figure out what they want. In the process though, it does leave others feeling confused. I suggest maybe you tell her that you need for her to figure out what she really wants and when she does that, if you are still going to be a part of it, to call you...but that you aren't interested in the mixed signals.