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I wasn't really trying to date this person. I met her in a support group. I found out that she has depression as I do with a bipolar kicker. She has confided with me, telling me that she has suicidal thoughts. I worry about her a lot and I do like her. She had a good heart. The bad part of her bipolar is 1 day she wants to hang out and the next she doesn't want anything to do with me. We're not serious by any means.
I won't lie. I like her a lot but I don't want to have a serious relationship with her because I don't want to go through another loss like I have already been through. I'm a widower. It's been a little over a year since I lost her. I miss having someone. I can't do casual sex. She has sort of hinted that she would like to have sex with me after about 3 weeks of knowing each other. We haven't even kissed yet. That's why I think she's looking for casual sex. I think that she doesn't really know what she wants in our relationship, hell I don't either but I think it wouldn't be a great idea to sleep with her. I know that I'm probably not ready for a relationship and I'm damn sure not ready for a fuck buddy. I have a lot of respect for this girl. She's been through a lot but so have I. I like spending time with her. I have some guy friends that have warned me about going to fast with her. They know how I was hurt.
I want to be her friend.
I want to help her out when she's down.
I don't want to loose our friendship.
I don't want her to find someone else if I choose not to have sex with her.
I don't really think she'll do that without telling about it because she thinks of me as a friend she can confide in, she knows that I like her a lot as a friend.
I think I could be her friend even if she starts dating but it'd be r rough.
I'm thinking to much.
I only post so I can get a little advice about my predicament before I screw things up.
I won't lie. I like her a lot but I don't want to have a serious relationship with her because I don't want to go through another loss like I have already been through. I'm a widower. It's been a little over a year since I lost her. I miss having someone. I can't do casual sex. She has sort of hinted that she would like to have sex with me after about 3 weeks of knowing each other. We haven't even kissed yet. That's why I think she's looking for casual sex. I think that she doesn't really know what she wants in our relationship, hell I don't either but I think it wouldn't be a great idea to sleep with her. I know that I'm probably not ready for a relationship and I'm damn sure not ready for a fuck buddy. I have a lot of respect for this girl. She's been through a lot but so have I. I like spending time with her. I have some guy friends that have warned me about going to fast with her. They know how I was hurt.
I want to be her friend.
I want to help her out when she's down.
I don't want to loose our friendship.
I don't want her to find someone else if I choose not to have sex with her.
I don't really think she'll do that without telling about it because she thinks of me as a friend she can confide in, she knows that I like her a lot as a friend.
I think I could be her friend even if she starts dating but it'd be r rough.
I'm thinking to much.
I only post so I can get a little advice about my predicament before I screw things up.
Make sense?
I'm really not ready to date. I don't even know if I can see me being friends with someone who constantly cancels plans.
My time is valuable.
She's in the same support group I'm in so I will give her moral support but I won't try to hang out with her anymore.
I thought we were having fun.
Guess not.
I'm fine just irritated.
Thanks for the supportive replies.
If she was truly a friend she would tell you what is going on and be open and honest. Maybe she is hiding something?
The only way to know is to at least ask why?
Then you make your choice from there as to what you want to do and what you choose to accept.
Wasn't thinking much about it when I posted this but I told my group and her about this site. I guess I may have screwed up even posting this. I don't know if she's on it or not but I guess if she is I'm sorry she saw this. I was just wanting a little advice about someone I really like. Im not sorry. I like her, this confirms it or I wouldn't have posted.
Pay no mind to this comment. Lol
I'm probably just paranoid.
Better safe than sorry.
I hope you both can keep in touch and that she will be okay.