i feel like my partner dosnt love me, hates me even. . .he shows me no love or affection whatsoever, when he want sex, his way of getting me in the mood, its to say 'are we having sex'? of course this never works, and rather than 'change his tactics' hes rolls over and acts like a spoilt child. . .

we do talk, or rather i do, he'll listen for a while then switch off, and demand my slience as the tv is constantly on. . .

i dont beat about the bush. . .i've told him what i need, how to deal with me when i'm upset, or had a bad day, but still . .nothing from him.

the reason i'm writing on here is because i'm upset, and fed up, hes been working away all week, we spoke on the phone earlier he knew i was suffering from pms and generally in a crap mood. cuddle, kiss, chat, asking if i was ok - no, not a bean! i feel so unloved and what he dosnt realise is that i miss sex, crave attention, touching etc but i never want sex with this man, because i am a woman, and we all know, sex isnt just about, demanding it, its about getting intouch with your partners feelings . . i cant see this breakthrough ever happening to be honest and i dont kno what to do. . .its just not normal. . .i know that.

9 years we've been together, and i love him, but somtimes i dont know why, and its so frustrating . . .right now i'm in tears as i've just read out to him what i've written, to be told, "i'm takin the dog out" - left crying again.

i dont know what to do. i'm banging my head against a brickwall and cant cope.....