You need to read up on what components make for a healthy relationship. I think almost every human being on one end of the spectrum or other is needy and damaged. How do we deal with our needs and hurts/pains life has thrown our way? No human being is perfect so we got to make a list of the qualities that we deem are necessary to us that make for a good relationship. For me it is listening, communication, humor, and grace. A relationship should bring you joy not sorrow on end. Yes, even in the best of relationships we will have sorrow here and there, but joy is the eminent factor. Hope this helps

That depends what your idea of "normal" is.

when I used to date, I had the same problem. I've attracted "needy" and " damaged" men. What I figured out was that the problem was with me and not with them.
this is something to ponder.

yeah i find the kooks too. heres the deal what makes you happy. when you see the signs tell them to beat it. move on, i mean really if it's not what you want why?

Em...there is no "normal" relationship. There\'s only defining what you want and going for it. When what SHE wants ISN\'T what YOU want, you\'ll know it, and you can always back out and tell her to do the same.

It seems the better the sex is the more intoxicated and crazy they get. Of course, we WANT the sex to be good, but when the level of intoxication reaches that dangerously obsessive level, to a point that is uncomfortable for you, um, better to back off, \'cause you\'ve created a monster. This works both ways, for US too.

Maybe this will help.. I think you need to take a good look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you deserve a wonderful woman in your life she doesn\'t have to be perfect cause no one is.. but you should have to put millions of hours "fixing her".. there is a difference.. and as soon as you see signs that she is too needy, damaged, or isn\'t the right one try talking to her about it and if she doesn\'t want to change thats when you realize she is not the one..

I haven\'t personally gone through this.. I am kind of on the other side of it.. My boyfriend used to attract needy and damaged girls as he has told me.. and he only ever stayed with them a few weeks at a time.. but when he met me he didn\'t really want a girlfriend and just wanted to hang out with the guys cause he was tired of it.. We were friends for about 2 months before we were official which seemed a little long to me but he was worth waiting for and he found that I was worth keeping.. I know I\'m not perfect I am a little bit too dependent on him sometimes, but he tells me that I am a lot easier to deal with than the other girls that he dated.. we have been dating for nearly 8 months now and we are both pretty happy with the way things are going..

I guess just know there is someone wonderful waiting for you don\'t stop looking.. maybe you just need to focus on yourself right now and figure out what you want in a girl.. I wish you luck!! I\'m sure there is someone out there waiting for you!!!