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Is there such a thing?
I'm of the opinion that a certain amount of anger, of what could be called annoyance or aggravation, is good, even essential, in life, because it brings a spice to a relationship, and keeps us as individuals hanging in there in the fight for survival and success in whatever endeavor we choose to pursue.
But I do recognize when my own anger puts up a barrier to love. It keeps one from being hurt, yes, but it also keeps one from being loved.
Trying to find that balance, within myself, as with anyone else, is a struggle. Sometimes discussing feelings and issues bring up unpleasantness in both people, and these things, of course, need to be addressed, without either party overreacting in anger, but, rather, gently pushing through the issue, feeling pain if necessary, in trying to form a solution. Reading the various posts in here, it seems one party is trying to get loved while their spouse or partner doesn't know how to handle that, so they react, unnecessarily, in anger.
I'm curious to start a discussion here on you people's views.
I'm of the opinion that a certain amount of anger, of what could be called annoyance or aggravation, is good, even essential, in life, because it brings a spice to a relationship, and keeps us as individuals hanging in there in the fight for survival and success in whatever endeavor we choose to pursue.
But I do recognize when my own anger puts up a barrier to love. It keeps one from being hurt, yes, but it also keeps one from being loved.
Trying to find that balance, within myself, as with anyone else, is a struggle. Sometimes discussing feelings and issues bring up unpleasantness in both people, and these things, of course, need to be addressed, without either party overreacting in anger, but, rather, gently pushing through the issue, feeling pain if necessary, in trying to form a solution. Reading the various posts in here, it seems one party is trying to get loved while their spouse or partner doesn't know how to handle that, so they react, unnecessarily, in anger.
I'm curious to start a discussion here on you people's views.
for me, i have problems and could never control it as i am short tempered myself. i know my own triggers from long ago my parents love to play games to make u angry on purpose and they do it to each other not caring at all typical narcs!!
I totally agree with you there; thanks!
Yeah, so often anger is a reaction to not getting our way (ego deflation), overreacting, or getting annoyed because someone barged into our personal space at the wrong time, when we were already stressed, or just misunderstanding and jumping to the wrong conclusion. Gotta relax more.