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So we ran into her and after I thought it was a good opportunity to tell him that his relationship with her makes me anxious. He got super defensive and said he was doing nothing wrong and I should trust him. I do trust him I don't think they're fooling around I was just letting him know their relationship makes me anxious. Today he's short with me and moody and we're on our way to his side of the family's Christmas and all I want to do is curl up and cry.
all i can say is try to enjoy the visit and try to talk to him about it later. do they have children together ? why is he having contact with her? Can you go along ? lots of questions but i would pick my battle to time when you are both relaxed. good luck
I don't like that he got all defensive.
I think I remember responding to your past posts, that he should be willing to give up the attention of another woman, if he loves you. Do you think his interest in her would fade if you just broke it off and let him find out for himself that the grass is not greener over with her?
Where if they've been friends for 10 years...she's just part of his life, and in my opinion, it's unreasonable to ask him to change. (That long and they're also probably more like brother/sister. In today's world, where fewer people have extended family...strong long-term friendships are a good thing.)
Question: How long have you been dating/married? Have you ever invited her over for dinner? Observed the two of them together?
If he doesn’t get it find the hottest guy you know and get him to text you, run into you by chance. Make a lunch date to meet up with him (but just as friends)
If after that he is fine with it.. tell him you are not!
She chose when she found out and decided to stay with him...
Expecting someone to change something that you've known about from the beginning (or could have asked about)....probably isn't going to work. (((Isn't this standard first few dates stuff? Do you have friends of the opposite sex? How'd you break up with past girlfriends? Still in contact with them? Do you have kids? Do you want kids?)))
Your choice now is either to leave, stay and be miserable, or somehow find a way to be okay with it.
Playing games trying to make him jealous and to get him to change that way...is immature.