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Things have been going much better with my fiance and we hadn't had a fight in ages. Last night we had a fight and it was totally stupid and he was being crazy and said a lot of mean things to me when I didn't do anything wrong.
He has been having a lot of stress at work and trying to change jobs, but that is no excuse for acting like a psycho.
I wonder if he meant anything he said or if I had done something to make him mad earlier. We talked this morning and he said he was just stressed about work and took it out on me. He also apologized. I'm still upset and don't want to talk to him.
He was freaking out all night and made it hard for either of us to sleep. So he went to work but didn't feel good and tried to leave and got suspended without pay. So basically fired for two weeks. He is looking for another job anyway. Maybe things will work out.
I just dont want to have to deal with his baby temper tantrums. I don't have kids for a reason.
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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First, I hope everyone is doing well, and continuing to fight that good fight! Keep up the great work on yourselves; I'm rooting for all of you!So, I started doing therapy at the beginning of the year, when I was in my most depressed state, but with my therapist, I made big changes and steps in the right direction. But, over a month ago, she couldn't take my insurance anymore, and I had to stop...
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Major job changes get me throwing baby temper tantrums, too. Enough discontent to get me suspended for two weeks? ? ? WA-A-A-A-AH! ! ! I owe my partner more than a tad of quid pro quo for having seen me through my hard times, but . . . Self-defense allowed. . . It doesn't help to drown with the drowning victim. When I can't be tolerant or supportive of my partner through his hard times, I give him lots of room to find his own solutions while I spend allot of time with my own support network.
Gentle support while you find what works for you, Ghost Wolf. If I wasn't already stuck with the kids, I probably wouldn't have put up with the husband either, though I suspect we'd still be good friends. It's much easier to send friends home after you've done all you can for them and vice versa.
That is to say, you and your beau are having an issue with the way you communicate with each other. I encourage the two of you to try a few sessions of couple's counseling.