we often try to equate the two parts of the relationship, lust and love, as one or as equal. they aren't. a long loving, sexual relationship can survive without sex, but a long loving relationship can't survive without love.

we all think we need to get our rocks off in a regularly scheduled format, and it is a nice way to live. however, it is not necessary to our general well being.

friends are friends forever. love is eternal. a f$%k last a few minutes. think about it....

Yeah, friends are great. But I need and want sex too! Self-service becomes monotonous. Arrrggghhhh.

And, traffic, this woman won't go to my church (too busy and got her own sister's family to hang out with). This "friendship" is limited in many ways besides sex.

Learn to keep it in your pants koolman :-)

I am and find a life devoid of physical pleasure quite boring.

I once befriended a really exotic, very beautiful young woman about 10 years ago and after a few months I noticed something about her that I could not quite define and my inquisitive nature got the better of me, so I asked her.."What is going on with you, you seem to be glowing with energy, moreso than ever before"

The answer koolman, stunned me (rare event !) as she replied, "It is one year to the day that I became celibate and I feel powerful !"

Yeah right - boring huh ?

She must be in love with Jesus LOL. It's enough to sustain some people.

Something to be said for a pure spirit that denies its flesh...

I've tried to be completely celibate, but I can't always find Jesus in my heart, and then I feel in agonizing pain, like I've been abandoned. I think this is why religion becomes an addiction unto itself.

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No koolman, she was in touch with herself and made a conscious decision to be celibate and leave repetitive behaviour patterns behind.

Thanks, traffic. I'm glad it's working...for her.

Jesus only helps them who help themselves koolman

thats bogus traffic. statements like that denigrate deity. they imply that God is there as a servant to our whims and desires.

celibacy can be very powerful. but it is not for everyone.

sex can be powerful. but it should be the consequence of a relationship not the basis.

true love, unselfish love, is or should be the goal of everyone. it is in a loving relationship that we will build joy and it is joy that will nurture us when we need it most....like when we aren't getting any....

Kiss my butt.

Don't piss off traffic.

Choosing celibacy is not easy but it is what I have done, at first I was forced into celibacy but now I'm choosing it.

However if the right man came along and we were wonderfully compatable I'm willing to tear my clothes off for him.... LOL!!!

Take it real slow and behave well, behavewell :-)

Oh traffic, don't spoil my fantasy.