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I started dating my boyfriend a year ago. A few months later I found out he had cheated on me with a few women. It was at the beginning of our relationship and I forgave him. As time has gone on I have found out about 20+ more girls he has cheated on me all within the beginning of our relationship. He told me it was because I wasn’t affectionate enough with him. I have since tried to continue to be better with that. About 5 months into our relationship we jumped into renting a place together and his job slowed down due to winter and all of a sudden I was supporting us, all while still doing all the house work and cleaning. We started fighting because I was stressed about money. Everything is a fight now it’s I want to cuddle to much. I wine to much. I’m to happy. I’m to whatever mood I’m in. Nothing I do goes without being told what I could have done better. From cooking dinner to cleaning. I feel lonely. Every time I have it into my head that I need to be done he acts so sweet I decide to stay then a few days later it’s all back to where it was. I just don’t understand.
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
I'd be running for the safety, but it is yours to sort.
Gentle support while you sort.
If a friend was telling you this about her boyfriend you’d tell her to leave, right?
Good luck and God Blesa
I think its time to go your separAte ways with this guy.if my man ever cheated on me I'd definitely break down and cry my eyes out then rip his testicles off.
If you been paying all the bills while he's been not working.why should you be the cleaning lady and cook.he should be doing that.
After reading this I can't believe that a partner could cheat on someone with 20+ people. I think after someone cheats on you once it should be over. To say you're in a committed relationship and then go on to sleep with so many people, it baffles me. I think that you have been caring enough to put up with this loser for so long that you deserve someone who cares about you an equal amount. I hope that you can find a healthy relationship where both of you are putting equal amounts of effort in.
I wish you luck,
Skywalker46
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I agree with RUN and maybe take some time to work on your self esteem Mollie.... You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect and that starts with how you treat you sweetie.... Big hug.....xo
However, him cheating and saying it was because "you weren't affectionate enough" is not the cause. You didn't make him cheat, so do not blame yourself for that.
It also sounds like you're one heck of a woman who can support yourself, especially because you're supporting both him AND you. Think of how much better it would be if you could focus on YOU?! This guy seems like a jerk who hasn't been appreciating what he has. Don't wait for him to be nice to you, find a partner who will be nice all the time and who will help support the both of you. You want a partner who will be your teammate.
I suggest kicking him to the curb ASAP girl. Focus on you!! Find some gal pals go hang out, enjoy yourself, move on, and find someone who will be your equal.