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I was woke up at 5:30 this morning by a phone call. I was so worried when the phone rang that something had happened to one of my kids, 21 and 18 years old. When I answered the man asked to speak to me by name, I was so scared, then he said, "guess who this is?
Well, I guessed right, I did kind of recognize his voice. I found my biological father when I was 32. He left when I was a baby, it was my first time to meat him. He came out from back east and stayed with me a month. Very Odd, but said he wanted to get to know me. A month later, him and his clan disappeared. I found out later he had been in trouble back east. It was real handy to have a place to lay low for a month till the heat was off, then he went back home. Didn't say by, leave a note, nothing.
Now, 18 years later, he wakes me up at 5:30 in the morning, when I have to get a good nights sleep for work. WTF. This guy just can't get this right.
Well, I guessed right, I did kind of recognize his voice. I found my biological father when I was 32. He left when I was a baby, it was my first time to meat him. He came out from back east and stayed with me a month. Very Odd, but said he wanted to get to know me. A month later, him and his clan disappeared. I found out later he had been in trouble back east. It was real handy to have a place to lay low for a month till the heat was off, then he went back home. Didn't say by, leave a note, nothing.
Now, 18 years later, he wakes me up at 5:30 in the morning, when I have to get a good nights sleep for work. WTF. This guy just can't get this right.
Excuse my French.
I would probably be really mad. When people do these things, i cant help but feel that they do it for personal gain, without any consideration for their kids.
Hope you are OK.
My first question would be "what do you want?"
You have no obligation to this man. If you're in a vulnerable state if mind, I will actually suggest you stay away. He's not a support.
We look at things the same way.
My phone rings when I'm sleeping my first thought is usually "Some shit BETTER be on fire!!!"
Yes! Something better be on fire for that kind of an early call. I turn my cell off at night. I've learned to love my sleep with no interruptions...or drunk next to me. I'm becoming a selfish biotch!
I am sorry you got rattled.
Caller ID: I know you gotta leave the phone on in case something happens to your kids. Glance at the # and caller's name. If you don't recognize those things, let the call go through to voicemail. Then check the voicemail. If it's nobody you want to talk to, or if it's not important, go back to sleep.