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sarah21
sarah21

hi I just want some advice please. It's been a rough couple of days. My boyfriend has left because I pushed him away. He told me so I tried to bring him back close again now he's saying it's fake when it's not. It's taken me 5 month to find myself again so I am trying to show him that am back to my self but he says am not. I don't know what to do

GettingBetterEveryday
GettingBetterEveryday
If you've been working on finding yourself then continue to do so and make yourself better. Improving yourself should always be your number one priority ( This has been a really hard concept for me) whatever will be with your boyfriend, will be. Good luck.
sarah21
sarah21
Thank you. I have found myself again. Now I only want to make things right with him and our family
Admingrnplnt031
grnplnt031
My advice to you is that you "learn" to be on your own, grow, and mature. You do not need and should not need "to show" a person how "you've grown". These are things that are paramount for your emotional health. Clinging on to something or someone is never good. That is a sign of obsession; particularly if you take months to show someone / anyone how you've grown.
I say this with love and compassion: take care of yourself, be kind to yourself and grow. If people or things don't want to be around you, let them go. I hope you find peace, and grow in happiness.
apache
apache
How old are you? Do you want to meet someone else and see how that works out? If so I'm available for a friendly relationship as someone to just go places and do things with (like site seeing, museums, paint gallery's or just hanging out with from time to time whenever you and I are both in a mood for it. What state you live in? You started this group right? So when you see this post see if you can answer those questions by posting back into it somehow or something and if the people running this site will allow it,...( yet to be seen) maybe we could just chat through here more intimately. Worth trying to see if nothing else right? Fish aren't biting this morning so here I am online through my I-phone working on trying to become more computer literate. Lol .....I'm deaf so I think this e-mail thing is a really good way and format to try and meet and communicate with others. You?....lol
i_made_it
i_made_it
My advice is to find yourself, help yourself, build yourself up, find out why you push people away, and become mentally strong enough to drop him out of your life if he doesn’t believe that you have changed or isn’t supportive of you and understanding. You need to find someone who loves you at your worst, supports you, builds you up, cares for you, and understands you. I know people like that are hard to find but trust me they are out there.