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Over the weekend, my boyfriend and I went to see Don Jon.
For anyone not familiar with this film, it was written by, directed by, and starring Joseph Gordon Levitt (who I LOVE), and he did a fantastic job presenting how unrealistic expectations are unhealthy in relationships.
His problem is he has developed unrealistic expectations of a healthy sexual relationship due to the extreme exposure to the objectification of females in todays society, mainly caused by the over-the-topness of the porn industry. As a result, he is unable to understand how to create a meaningful relationship with a woman, and also does not understand why he does not find absolute gratification in sex.
The girl hes into, played by Scarlet Johanssen, also has unrealistic expectations of what a healthy relationship is due to the idealistic nature that many "romantic" films present love and relationships. The film doesnt touch upon this quite so much, but its set up in a way that leads you to come to that realization on your own.
He figures it out in the end, and I wound up a wee bit sniffly.
If anyone has not gotten a chance to see this movie yet, I highly recommend it.
For anyone not familiar with this film, it was written by, directed by, and starring Joseph Gordon Levitt (who I LOVE), and he did a fantastic job presenting how unrealistic expectations are unhealthy in relationships.
His problem is he has developed unrealistic expectations of a healthy sexual relationship due to the extreme exposure to the objectification of females in todays society, mainly caused by the over-the-topness of the porn industry. As a result, he is unable to understand how to create a meaningful relationship with a woman, and also does not understand why he does not find absolute gratification in sex.
The girl hes into, played by Scarlet Johanssen, also has unrealistic expectations of what a healthy relationship is due to the idealistic nature that many "romantic" films present love and relationships. The film doesnt touch upon this quite so much, but its set up in a way that leads you to come to that realization on your own.
He figures it out in the end, and I wound up a wee bit sniffly.
If anyone has not gotten a chance to see this movie yet, I highly recommend it.
I guess I'll have to check out the movie and see.
The main character comes to that realization himself at the end and finds a deep emotional bond with a woman that he would have previously deemed unfit to be found sexually attractive and therefore unable to interest him (played by Julianne Moore, who is my all-time favorite)
It was also a real eye-openeer for me and the boyfriend, as we have previously struggled with him having an addiction to porn.
My ex-husband was very unhappy because he wanted me to BE just like a porn star. He even went so far as to suggest I get a job as a dancer at the strip club near here... Additionally, I myself have stuggled with unrealistic expecations in what is "deserved" in a relationship as a female, which was a massive contributor to my divorce.
So all in all, it was nice to see a movie that is honest about these things in a way that is genuinely trying to get people to think.
I'll check your suggestion!