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This started in another thread, but I didn't want to take it to far off of it's own course. The idea of being different. I am an odd ball, square peg, apparently slightly abrasive to much of the world, because......I don't fit in any particular place.
I had a male friend who seemed to like much of who I was, but he needed to know exactly who I was, where I fit. He would say you sound like this or that.....One day I drew a picture on the dry erase board on his office wall. I grouped a bunch of dots in different areas all around the board, and then in the middle, I drew one dot all alone in the middle, and I said, there, that is me, I don't fit in any of these bunches, and I don't know why that is not okay? I'm just me.
That is the catalyst for my research into why there is always this push and pull between people with different values.Apparently, me standing in the middle of no where, rubs people really wrong. If I choose to be different, they take it as I am saying there way is wrong. I believe no one is wrong, we are all just perfectly ourselves.
I had a male friend who seemed to like much of who I was, but he needed to know exactly who I was, where I fit. He would say you sound like this or that.....One day I drew a picture on the dry erase board on his office wall. I grouped a bunch of dots in different areas all around the board, and then in the middle, I drew one dot all alone in the middle, and I said, there, that is me, I don't fit in any of these bunches, and I don't know why that is not okay? I'm just me.
That is the catalyst for my research into why there is always this push and pull between people with different values.Apparently, me standing in the middle of no where, rubs people really wrong. If I choose to be different, they take it as I am saying there way is wrong. I believe no one is wrong, we are all just perfectly ourselves.
Would you like some kool-aid?
I just know that certain things, views and ideas are not meant to be shared with your typical gum-chewing - honeyBooboo-watching masses who worry about only what's going on in their front yard and do as little as possible in life to get by with as little effort as possible.
Enjoy your good brain and feel good about it.
Ugh...or the Bachelor....or the Kardashians
I am an unusual one myself and have been told that!
Guess what? I LOVE it! Who wants to be like everyone else?
Not me!
xxoo
Now I have talked to the guy with the car and we are going to discuss a financial arrangement I'll basically pay for the plates/insurance and rent the car from him, for cash not sex. Am I the weird one? He says it's how the world works and I need to wake up.
I like being me, and I'm good with that :)
Would you care to describe HOW you're different?
On the flip side, all the people I am acquainted with that have vices, tend to keep me at arms distance because they feel I judge them for their vices.
I've worked around men most of my life and have learned to hold my own with the boys. Men don't necessarily like that, and woman are a little intimidated by me. I'm not a girly girl. I'm a Plain Jane, with wild curly hair. I'm an odd ball.
However the part of us that is physical manifestation is a unique expression due to nature and nurture.
I can acknowledge both uniqueness on one level and oneness on another.