Oh absolutely not....you are definitely not the only one who goes through that. Sadly in my case it got so bad that it was literally all the time. We could barely be in the same space for more than a couple of minutes and a fight would ensue.
The last few years of my married life were like constantly walking on egg shells. I never knew what could trigger a tirade from my ex.

I am so very very sorry this is happening to you. I really hope and pray that you can both work through it all and find a way back to happiness together. My prayers are with you.

I did and my parents did.

I'll start with my parents. They've been fighting for as long as I can remember. My dad is a control freak. They stopped fighting as often (used to be a weekly) but they still fight. I think he's kinda afraid of me and my brother so he doesn't want to anger us. So in this case, I'd say it only stopped because he's afraid, otherwise it would still happen a lot.

My situation. My first LTR had us fighting almost daily. Both of us hated fighting but it became part of our relationship. We split up but we are REALLY good friends now. We were both better off apart because our relationship turned us into people we're not.

The second LTR I had also consisted of fighting 3-4 times a week. It was my fault because I cared too much and I wanted to protect her from things I had no control over (before I met her). It stemmed from the issues with my parents. That never fixed itself. We always fought no matter what. It's good we ended too, we were not right for each other either.

The point is, if you're in a relationship where there's fighting, it will ALWAYS be there. You can't fix that (at least not in my experience). I'm asexual now so I don't date anyone but I know that in normal healthy relationships people don't argue that often.

Wish you the best!
-Jay

You can disagree without arguing/fighting. It's all about communication. Nobody is perfect so it's ok to get frustrated every once in a while but it's your reaction that matters most.

Sounds like you are trying to work through it. Best of luck!

Like the two garbage guys in the movie Star Trek IV "I like the way she fights!", maybe the fighting is what makes your relationship spicy! Not necessarily a bad thing, just needs to be regulated a bit.

I had a REALLY though time with this, and partly because I held grudges and so did he so the smallest thing made us snap... till I honestly woke up and said "hey I love this guy and when I WIN its a loss for him" no one REALLY wins the fight in the end... I would rather be happy then right all the time :)

Good luck my friend!!!

so sorry i never said thank you to these replies....It feels good to know that this is somewhat normal. Thank you for understanding what it's like and for being so kind to never once mention leaving or divorcing him. To me it sounds like you all know the true meaning of marriage and for better of worse so thank you for your replies

You both sound like you are two dominant people and perhaps you are both wanting to be "right". I suggest counseling and get to the true nature of the arguments as it goes deeper than your everyday disputes. Also the book "The five love Languages" might help also get the movie "Fireproof". Best to you! You need to communicate and rather than let yourself get angry every time just walk away as there is no sense and carrying out the fight.

I have felt this way even dating some people and it may mean you truly weren't a match when you got together. Your needs maybe aren't being met or he feels his are not either. And other relationships for me went very smooth. Usually if one is a dominating person you can't have both like that. You have to let some things go. You chose eachother for reasons and have kids now you need to work it out for the better of your family.

my parents fight daily and still do all cuz they hate each other. they have been fighting about the same thing since the 70s: money, other women my dad was/is fucking, fraud, physical abuse, etc. still married, dont love each other, wont get a divorce, screwing each other over, etc.

ive fight with them daily and weekly which is not healthy for a child it was like that as a kid growing up. my bf and i would fight alot which i do hate, i do mostly start it but i expect perfectionism that u should do xyz. it does make me cry and feel bad when we fight im always the one screaming to the top of my lungs just like my idiot mom does on a daily basis.

i expect to be heard and listened too as no one has ever listened to me still dont today. for me, i know why i always blow up it stems from childhood. i only blow up like this towards guys not so much girls as i feel guys deserve it. im the type who wants to be right all the time all the time while im screaming my bf just sits there silently. :(

if he would do shit right all the time i wouldnt have to sit there and scream a lot, its his fault anyway. my bf was teaching how to communicate without screaming and actually just talk when theres an issue..

I tend to choose my battles wisely. Mostly fighting is about control, and fighting for control is just not worth it. When you're two strong-willed people, sometimes you let the other win when you know, in the grans scheme of things, it will be better in the long run. That's the art of marriage, thinking the long view, the long haul.

Not married, so no spouse to fight with at the moment, was involved with someone, gave up trying to change her into my clone (she's not), my parents gnatter away at each other and nit-pick each other's perceived "faults", which doesn't look very appealing to me. I get in occasional squabbles with family and friends, but there is a sense, in all of us, of the "common good", wanting to get back on track as far as keeping the good times a rolling.