Do you mean date people like our parents mum/dad? Well in my case god what a thought no thanks!

I don't think so. I think i date the total opposite.

Those are exactly the people I tend to attract: They remind me, either in looks or personality, of either my mom or my dad. My mom's a hyper workaholic who can't sit still, my dad's a laid-back type, and I inherited a whacky mix of those two extremes. I love them both, but I'd prefer to hook up with someone laid-back like my dad.

I do not know, maybe we date people we idealize as what our parents should be like or should have been. I know I try to do things differently than my father and certainly don't want to date someone like my mom.

The longer I am with my soulmate, the more and more he reminds me of my father!!!! Both the good parts and the not so good!!! (But at least he's a new, improved version!!!)
Too late now, though, in any case!! I'm hooked for life!!!! LOL!!!!
I think we subconsciously look for what we had growing up or for what we felt we were missing.
And I think that's just a natural thing!!! Our parents and people who played a large part in our lives when we were children are what shaped us and made us who we are!!!

We are creatures of habit;
we naturally find comfort in our "comfort zones" - there for we subconciously attract that which is familar - to create comfort - better the devil you know and all that.

Its not the most alluring thought - but its a common predicament apparrantly.

why the question? are you a mummy's or daddy's boy??????

I can not agree. My father was not part of my life and my X's have been nothing like my mother. I think it goes about what you want/attract. I can honestly say, none of my past relationships were people you would put in the same spectrum. (hmm now that I think about that, whoa)

I have heard that many of us not only date people like our opposite sex parent, but, we pick those who have characteristics which are the same as the worst characteristic of our opposite sex parent.

I think it basically applies to those of us who never felt we could please our parent, so we pick someone like them, and spend our lives not pleasing our partner either. lol

Yes I think it is innate to try to re-create (and possibly try to "fix") issues with parents.........but it is all underlying.........takes a long time to see it .........

I read a book that said we date people like are parents becasue its what we are famliar with

I have heard and read that a high percentage of girls will end up marrying men with characteristics / qualities most like their fathers (or a male figure that has remained close to them while growing up). And the same is for boys, only they will (whether on a sub-conscious level or not) will end up looking for a wife with similar habits or qualities like that of their moms. I guess it comes down to what we are familiar with, whether it is healthy or not, if just feels "safe". But I am too much like my dad to want to marry someone with the same attributes as I do and my mom and I already do not get along so it would be impossible to love / marry someone I cannot get along with.

I thought crusty's response was the best :-)

My husband is a lot like my dad. I dunno how that happend lol