Yeah. It IS making her life more complicated, a lot more.

I don't know why she is that way. Excitement/drama junkie?

Yes, she has had two abusive long term relationships. She probably likes the excitement and drama. I was boring because I was a nice guy. So she dumped me. She was very excited about me when I paid little attention to her. Everything changed when I started giving her a lot of attention, flowers, calls, compliments.

What I find very puzzling about her is what I would call her emotional or sentimental instability.. Two weeks ago she was asking me for one of my pillows so she could have something of me to hug at night. I have lots of examples like this. She also asked me to make love to her several times. A week ago she was telling me how great she felt in my arms in my bed. And now she tells me she is in love with someone else. She is emotionally unstable. Any technical term for that that I could look up.

My question is why are you so attracted to someone who (in your words) is "emotionally unstable"?

@gabriel

I see where this is going man... This woman likes you a lot but she probably feels the lawyer guy can provide a better financial lifestyle for her. "LAWYER". A lot of women tend to let money control their relational decisions. And if you talk about this with them they will not admit this.

Example, my ex left me and her reason was blah blah blah. The guy before me was some guy filling her head up with "i'm going to make it to the NBA one day" and from what I hear from her, the guy plays very well. So here we are now with this complicated situation going on her head.... Should see settle with the sweet average guy that makes her feel completely happy or should she settle with the guy that's nowhere sweet as the other guy but makes you think he's going to make all this money one day in the NBA. This makes a confused woman. What was her solution... end relationship and keep options open but don't admit to me this is why you broke up.

Your scenario is the same. I bet if that man was not a lawyer she would be looking heavily at you and not waiting for a married lawyer to get a divorce.

Bingo #5. You have seem what others haven't. She is a woman with many, many problems which her lawyer has been solving. He has control of all her cases, house, alimony, car, etc. She said she originally fell in love with him because he was so good to her and her kids in getting her out of an abusive relationship. So its not just money, its power. She feels powerless in this world and with him he feels he takes care of everything. As I said, she is a mess on her own. So SHE WANTS TO BE RESCUED. I wished she had not led me on for so long making me believe the lawyer thing was a thing of the past. She was really into me but then things changed. She was probably in touch with him or missed him once we started dating. I dont know. She was not clear about this. Maybe this was a case of emotionall infidelity. The point is that you are right, she went for the money and power, not for the better lover. She is full of problems. So maybe the lawyer deserves her. He is much older than she. So he thinks he won the lottery. It will be great for a while, but she will continue to be a mess and have serious problems with her kid all her life. He can't help with that. I was also helping her getting out of her diabetes. He can't help with that either. She confessed she did not talk to the lawyer as much as about many things she talked with me. Also she said she loved to talk to me because I was interesting. I am highly educated and I have lived in four countries. The lawyer is from a small town where he grew up and knows little about the world. But she is the same. So maybe I am outside her leage. They are a match. Two small town people. She cannot value what I am or what i have to offer. She does not even understand some things I post on facebook. She wont have that problem with a smail town lawyer.

ScarletAngel makes a good point. Why am I attracted to a person who is so emotionally unstable. Humm. I guess I was giving her some time to see if she stabilized, if she fell in love with me once she got to know me better and we shared more good times together. I was so sure she was going to like me and stop hesitating, because she kept telling me how good it felt to be with me. But at the same time she would back off continuously. So yes, if I saw this continuing for 2-3 months I would have left her. I did not get that trial period. she did not get to know me better. But it is likely that she is like this, that she was not going to change. In that case I can feel good she left. Good point.

@gabriel

I don't know about you but if the woman that I'm very interested in rather wait for a married man to get a divorce so they can be together, that would be a complete turn-off for me and I would not want her back if her and the married man relationship doesn't work. You are #2 in her eyes man. She already admitted this to you. Let her go man!

She does seem addicted to bad relationships & doesn't seem to want a "healthy" one. Agree with the other posts of the lawyer having money, being her rescuer, etc. Seems she likes complication. Sorry she mislead you but her wanting to be with her married lawyer has all kinds of red flags.

You sound like an incredible person so nothing wrong with getting all you deserve and want in a relationship. Please remember that (I'm telling myself the same thing)

gabriel2012, you deserve a much better woman who is appreciative of all you have to offer. This one seems a little nutty.