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Codependent

ccleaver
ccleaver

How do you steer clear of codependency?

finallyawakenow
finallyawakenow
Practice the many ways to love yourself. Exercise, good diet, plenty of water. Spend time with yourself like taking a walk or some yoga/meditation. I’ve found that this taking care of myself allows me to be my own best friend. This allows me to give to others in an unconditional way.
When I was codependent I would avoid my own life for another’s. Live your life and share with others.
mlr0853
mlr0853
Same as above. Think about how you feel when around 'friends' ....do you feel drained after a visit, do you feel used and unappreciated? Are you the first to offer help, without being asked?

As FAN said above love yourself enough to say No if you don't want to do something. Look at friendships, are they balanced or are you giving, doing, calling etc?

Might feel weird, your current friends might have some reactions when you say No. Creating healthy habits for yourself and your life will help you to steer clear :)
hasty_05
hasty_05
Read The New Codependency book. Do the exercises after each chapter. Start to understand we are putting other's needs before our own needs. In the long run, this makes us very unhappy and we tend to have people take advantage of us because we really don't feel good about ourselves. I am assuming you mean your own codependency? If you mean someone else's, well their codependency can drive you crazy if you let it.
ccleaver
ccleaver
Yeah I was taking care of someone and buying their friendship at the same time
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